I have met some people in the last few months that fit different sides of my personality and while changing my personality to hang out with them is difficult, it feels right.
any ideas?
2006-10-15 16:05:51 · 5 answers · asked by a_aramirez 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
but it's soo exahusting and confusing..
2006-10-15 16:17:43 · update #1
i'm not trying to "pretend" per se..it's more like they awaken a side of my personality associated with that particular interest..for example..when im with my theatre people, I'm my actor self and that is a side of my personality..but not a side I enjoy the most..just enjoy the most when I am with them.
and I enjoy that side..but it's not where I feel most comfortable..but i don't hate it either..
2006-10-15 16:20:46 · update #2
it is rather confusing trying to find my "home base " again though..like I was talking to someone earlier who I feel represents me in a way..and I couldn't act like myself at all..and it does interfere when I do what I love the most improv..because in improv you have to be yourself and have your most natural reaction to things..and when I have hung out with the theatre crowd and come to class the next day, I totally misrepresent myself and almost always have a horrible performance day..which depresses me greatly..and I am really wondering if I can invite all these somewhat different people(they're both theatre people really.but I am more represented in my improv self than my pure theatre friends) to the same function without imploding socially.
I am alluding to the whole "independent George" theory from the tv show Seinfeld..how independent george and boyfriend george are too different people andhow those worlds can never meet..its sounds weird but it can happen.
2006-10-15 16:27:26 · update #3
It sounds like you make have a talent for adapting well to your environment and being flexible and open to different personalities/perspectives. You are practicing and developing new social skills and it sounds like you are finding out who you are (nothing wrong with that). On course you will want to watch out not to change your personality too much to please others, instead moving within your own personality while people bring out certain "sides" of you is healthy and may be needed to formulate those social skills you need for later in life. Good luck.
2006-10-15 16:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by speakthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Used to be that way a long time ago... at school=P
Got tired of it.
It's exhausting trying to "pretend" being someone you're not just so to blend in.
You're better off hanging out with a crowd that accepts you for the way you are.
Best of Luck! ^_^
2006-10-15 16:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do this all the time. You have different friends to hang with, and if you can change your personality to suit the situation, do it. We all do it when we go to work, party, watch children. Different "hats" as they put it in psychology.
2006-10-15 16:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why change yourself just to hang out with them ?
everyone is with different personality , all we need to do is to learn and live with different types of people in harmony.
you can always be open and change your circle of friends (including those not met yet !)
2006-10-15 16:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If you're a faker then I guess it's normal. I have a friend that is a faker and she does that. I can tell. And people can tell.
2006-10-15 16:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by rainyfriday09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋