I am currently a mistress to one of my very good friends. we just started our relationship it is emotional and non physical i am wondering what you would do if you found out ur husband was in a very emotional relationship with a much younger woman?
2006-10-15 16:03:00 · 32 answers · asked by hi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating is cheating whether it's an "emotional" or physical affair with a MARRIED man. You're hurting both people here, plus yourself in the long run.
What would the wife do? She would do something to end it. It could be simple or something extreme; depending on how angry and hurt she is.
But, then again, he will end it when you have served your purpose.
You can do better. You're young. Why waste your time and get your heart broken over this guy?
2006-10-15 16:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a married woman and I think an emotional relationship is more damaging than sex. If I think of my husband sharing his secrets and dreams with another woman it really hurts. I am the woman he married and I am the one he should share those things with. If there is a reason he can't, I would want him to tell me so we could resolve the issue. Age to me doesn't matter, it's the connection that does. Please don't go any further with this. If there is a problem in their marriage he needs to take the steps to fix it or he needs to end the marriage. If you stay involved it will just be hard on you. Don't put yourself in that position. Don't you think you deserve better, a man fully and completely yours with no strings attached. I do! Good luck.
2006-10-15 16:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking to one another and being friends your not a mistress. If your talking dirty to him to get him off then that is different. Being a friend is important but if your friends with his wife and him then you may have a really big problem if you are found out. Because the thought will be there that you are doing something cause you are hiding it.
2006-10-15 16:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
initially i would be devastated,as it is the last thing which i would be expecting. after that I will question and probably be very angry at him ,and myself for being a fool. then I would accept it for what it is and move on. sounds simple , but i am sure it will involve quite a bit of emotional warfare.
do you really want to be the cause of her and any childrens pain, even though you are probably doing her a favour in the long run, if she was to find out. i feel for you too, as it is easy to get swept away and you must be having a bit of a time trying to decide what to do.
2006-10-16 02:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to have friend like that but it look like this may only be spelling trouble. It probably won't be too long before it is more than just emotional. I think you should set some definite bonderies with this friend. Don't let it get out of hand.
2006-10-15 16:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is apparently a female thing, which I don't understand. Why do you say that you are his mistress, if the relationship is non-physical? To my male way of thinking, if you're not cheating, then you're not cheating. In other words, without sex, you're just really good friends.
Not really helpful, I know. But I felt the need to put my two-cents in. Good luck.
2006-10-15 16:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by juicy_wishun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
physical or not, I believe if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse it is cheating. don't get me wrong I'm not here to judge. you have to figure out what is right for you, is this guy worth it. you don't want to be a mistress forever because usually, in the end, they always return to their wives- it is just what they know, it is familiar ground and there are almost no risks involved. Just something to think about.
2006-10-15 16:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by lizzy1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotional affairs are just as bad as physical affairs. My husband wouldn't last with me long if he was having an emotional affair. I wouldn't be able to trust him after that.
2006-10-15 16:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by fayra_elm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats hard and i believe that hurts...and im sorry hon.... but watch out for urself too because ur just empotional relationship wih ur close friend can change realy soon, there is just a little , thin line between close friends and sexual partners...
leave ur husnabd if u dont wanna get hurt anymore....
2006-10-15 16:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How wrong would it be for your husband to be doing the same thing with a younger girl?
2006-10-15 16:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋