We have been together for 6 years but he never tries to make a move like that is it normal?
2006-10-15 15:53:49 · 30 answers · asked by fancy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you got him used to being that way. Same thing happened with my ex and I (we were together for 4 years by the way), I started complaining to him about why he wasn't as affectionate with me anymore and that was his answer.
2006-10-15 15:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6yrs? That's too long of a period of time for you to just now notice that. Unless, it's only recently begun to bother you. If he's been this way throughout the relationship, he probably isn't the affectionate type. Instead of waiting for him to make a move on you, make one on him. If he responds positively, he probably just don't know how to go about making moves on you. There are plenty of books and videos to help him out. Encourage him to practice on you as much as possible. If he responds negatively, its cool. But it's a sure sign that you guys are two different people who should be with different people. Maybe the novelty of the relationship has worn off and now you see how things really are between you. Chemistry is the most important thing in a relationship and if you don't have it, your relationship will never go anywhere. It may be time to find a more suitable mate. That is, unless you don't mind your relationships to not go beyond girlfriend/boyfriend level.
2006-10-15 16:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together you should have an open level of communication.
Ask him if you two can sit two and have a discussion. Guys hate it, but he will say yes. So start talking about your relationship and tell him there's one thing you wish he'd do more. Then give him a fabulous kiss and smile. He will be so thamkful you don;t just want to ***** and complain and your point will get across.
Also, if there is a reason, it will give him an open and inviting platform for discussion.
2006-10-15 15:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months and at first he was always kissing and sexual with me and it has tapered to practically nothing. I feel your pain, it sucks. I was told that it is because guys love the thrill of the chase and once they know they have you, the thrill is gone. It does not not mean he doesn't love you but the "passion" probably died down.
2006-10-15 16:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by wandalea_tx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while i was reading this my hubby, reading over my shoulder reached over and kissed me...lol i think he wanted to prove he didn't have low sex drive, we have been married for 7 yrs and together for 10, yea were in love and affectionate but i am totaly ok somtimes with us in 2 diffrent rooms doing our own things. we never do the whole make out scence that we did back when we started dating, it would be nice but you know i wouldn't change our seldom kisses and love snuggles for nothing. this is aged to perfection get it when its good for us moments now, dont look to into it, they say its us women who get the headaches of no nooky tonight but i so beleive its the men who loose the oomf in sex.
2006-10-15 16:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say but I am a man and i would say no it isn't normal. Unless he is 60 or so. Could there be a chance he might be seeing someone else? Or is he deeply religious? Other than that I would have to say NO.
2006-10-15 15:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my fiance for 5 1/2 years and it is NOT like that! Whether or not it's normal is hard to say...I'd assume no, it's not normal. I think you need to talk to him about it. Because obviously it hurts your feelings! Just let him know because he may not even be aware of it, especially if it's been like this for awhile.
2006-10-15 15:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he feels as though his breath is not fresh is he a smoker? That is how my ex was because he smoked! You have to make the first move kissing or sexually??? If it is sex maybe he is insecure!!! for some reason...
2006-10-15 15:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by MoKelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't know whether you like to be kissed or ... I sometimes have the same problem with girls , i get really close to one girl and just cant seem to force myself to make a move..I always just end up hugging them... my advice talk to him about, ask and if you dont get a straight answer then go for the kiss yourself
2006-10-15 15:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Magnitudex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...sure doesn't seem normal to me.
But you know: Women can initiate kissing, too, luv...it's allowed.
Snootchy up next to him real cozy and give him one of those tonsil-licking kisses that pop his eardrums and rattle the windows two houses over. Betcha he'll respond....
2006-10-15 15:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋