my sister had a little boy at 19 weeks need info on creamation?

Question

my sister gave birth to a little boy at 19 weeks and i was told that they offer free creamation how would i find this out for her please let me know and for the ppl reading this please keep us in your prayers and pray for the late daminion chrispher my nephew her son

the reason we are looking at creamation is cue to the fact she lives over 200 miles from where she had my nephew if she barries him there she would not be able to visit thee grave

she lives i am sorry 2000 miles she had him in illinois she was seeing our father she lives in texas

Answer 1

I'm the neonatal bereavement coordinator at my hospital, and I don't know anyplaces in my area that offer free cremation. Almost all funeral homes will do the service for free, and sell the casket, cault, and plot at cost. Cremation usually costs about $200 for a neonate. Sorry, I know that wasn't very helpful. Even less comforting is that she doesn't have to have a funeral or cremation if she doesn't want to because the baby was born before the age of viability. I would want to, and if she does, she should definetly lay the baby to rest in the way that feels most comforting to her.

There are necklaces you can buy to put ashes in, so she can keep them with her wherever she goes. I know a lot of my patients find this comforting.
http://www.jewelrykeepsakes.com/diamond-keepsakes/diamond-keepsake.htm

Answer 2

There are simply no words that can express the sadness I feel for the loss of your nephew. Of course I will keep both you and your sister in my prayers.

As for the cremation, I would suggest calling the hospital administration office. I know they would be the ones that could answer your question. If your sister would prefer to have her son buried I know you can have a casket shipped home. If she is flying home it could be shipped as cargo in the same plane. This would be expensive though and I don't know your's or your sister's financial situation. I too would be happy to make a donation but the truth is I don't know if mine or anyone else's donations would arrive in time.

I know this a devastating thing to happen. It happened to my sister-in-law and brother many years ago. The only advice I can give is to be there for your sister. Please let both you and her grieve. Many people may tell you that your sister should just get over it - after all it's not like she really knew the baby. They may say the same to you but you and I both know that a mother begins to love her child as soon as she knows she's expecting. (well most anyway) They may say the same to you. Do not listen to them. Your sister and yourself must go through all the stages of grief because this was a human being this was a baby and that baby was loved.

Again, I'm so so sorry for your loss. Please give my deepest sympathy to your sister. Tell her she is not alone. I personally think you are a wonderful and loving sister and I know that even though you will always remember and miss him, The pain will fade with time.

May God be with you and keep you in this time of grief.

fishergirl

Answer 3

I'm Sorry 4 Your Sister's Loss but I know of no funeral home that does it free my son died a few days before he was born that hurt really bad but we had 2 pay for that.But that was over 23yrs ago maybe times have changed talk with the funeral director he'll be able 2 tell U...Again I'm Sorry 4 Your Family's Loss
God Bless You..Take One Day At A Time.They say time heals all wounds..Good Luck

Answer 4

I'm so sorry for the loss of your nephew and for your sister, her son. whether he's 19 weeks or 30 years old it's crushing. I just lost my son of 30 yrs. and we had him cremated. Don't know about free cremations but all I can suggest is that you contact a funeral home for they are the ones who cremate and they can tell if they do it for free or they will know who to contact that will. You may have to go through the state (?). We didn't know anything about cremation till we talk with a funeral director. They do have connections and are extremely helpful. My prayers are with you, your sister and the family.

Answer 5

My husband is a funeral director. You need to contact a few different mortuaries. Some will do services for free under these circumstances, others won't. It just depends on the individual mortuary. My suggestion would be that a bigger or chain funeral home would be more likely to do it for free, since they usually have more money than a family owned funeral home, so they can afford to do it for free.
I'm very sorry for your loss.

Answer 6

I would start at the hospital they may know or call the funeral homes. This is a delicate time and you would surprise how quickly you will get help you if you just make a call.


I am so sorry for your sister and family's loss. I will put you in my prayers tonight.

Answer 7

The hospital should be able to help you with that..I am so sorry I know how she feels right now.I lost a little girl at 20 weeks..She was so beautiful, it was really hard...I am really sorry all you can do for her is listen to her and let her cry...

Answer 8

The hospital's pastoral care department should be able to help you. I'm sorry for your family's loss.

Answer 9

I don't care if it is free or not. I will chip in for a casket for that beautiful baby God created. It just doesn't seem right to burn the babies remains. A proper burial is much more dignified, and she can visit the grave.

Answer 10

I have no information for you, but wanted to send my deepest sympathies to your family. I will keep you all in my prayers.