I've heard about the "horror" stories of swingers. I'm looking for folks who got divorced as a result of swinging. Tell me who initiated swinging and who initiated the divorce and why?
2006-10-15 15:14:02 · 4 answers · asked by TheNobleOne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been in the Lifestyle for several years now, and we've never seen a couple get divorced because of swinging. We have however seen couples get into swinging to try to fix or save their marriage and eventually end-up divorced anyway.
As someone once said: "Swinging won't hurt a good marriage, but it sure won't fix a bad one."
Or as another friend, who is open-minded but not a swinger herself said after attending a few swingers parties with us: "Swinging is like the icing on the cake. But if the cake underneath doesn't have all the ingredients to make it solid, all the icing in the world won't keep it from crumbling."
I think that is the best analogy I've heard on the subject, and it came from a non-swinger.
The difference is those of us that are successful at swinging had a great relationship and a great sex life to start with. We got into swinging not to "spice up" our marriage because it was already really "spicey", but because we wanted to explore more together. We were having so much fun together, for us it simply was the next level.
Those that don't make it wouldn't have made it anyhow. They used swinging to try to breathe new life into a failing marriage and lo-and-behold, swinging didn't magically fix their problems. In fact, many times it can intensify them. The problems were still there along with some new ones. The same selfish issues that were creating problems in the relationship to begin with (i.e. being selfish with money, time, etc.) shows up when they swing too. It just adds one more issue for the couple to deal with.
So in short: no, I've never known swinging to cause a divorce, but I've know several couples that tried to use swinging to fix their relationship and still ended-up divorced.
2006-10-15 17:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swinging doesn't lead to divorce unless your in that frame of mind anyway however,... if the reason one of the partners wants to swing is because they aren't as into their spouse as they should be then its not a good idea.. and no I'm not into that lifestyle just think their is no more to it then any other in fact i think the divorce rate would be less if you could do it I'm just to jealous natured
2006-10-15 22:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an ex (20 yrs. ago) who got married after dating the girl for 8 years. They ran right into the unhealthy lifestyle of swinging and she left him after all that time and only being married for like 3 years. She was a ho anyway. I'd still take him back. If I wasn't married...
2006-10-15 22:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really don't want to get suked in to that , once you are in the swingers club, well you are a member for life ... like a gang
but only gang banging (haha)
2006-10-15 22:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋