2006-10-15 14:55:47 · 20 answers · asked by weedwacker 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
No it's not....lighten up. It's slang.....it doesn't mean she's in love with you.
2006-10-15 15:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation, tone of voice, context of the "love you". Would she say it in the same situation, tone of voice, and context to another woman? If so, not harassment. If not, probably yes. (or did you mean, We're all women in the work place) In that case, are you the only one she said that to, and is she expecting more out of you, physically than any one else there? Did you tell her not to say that any more, and she continues to say it to you? If in doubt, report it, and, an investigation will make a determination.
2006-10-15 23:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by wbecca52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how it was said and the context of it. The person who uses these phrase might meant a hello or hi to them....if unsure, try to get perspective from other colleagues who had any feedbacks regarding the above and report the situation if neccesary.
However, if the lady boss meant nothing on the above statement, then you have nothing to worry about, after all, women tend to be emotional and expressive when it comes to gestures.
2006-10-15 22:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by dun_give_ a_ damn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Context is everything.
I have told colleagues I know very well, "I LOVE YOU!" when they've done something heroic to save my behind. I have never murmured it in a tete-a-tete in the conference room. I also have platonic friends I say "I love you" too.
Harassment is independent of the sexes of those involved. If you're uncomfortable, then say something. If it continues, report the person.
2006-10-15 22:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the context. Some people use that phrase without meaing anything by it. However, if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you should talk to her about it and if she continues to use it toward you, then you have reason to take the matter to your Human Resources department. Be sure to document the dates/times you have spoken to her, or her boss, about the matter.
2006-10-15 21:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Curious George 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not harrassment, it's just bad taste and lack of common sense. Last time I checked you can't sue a person for that. If it really bugs you, have a list of one-liner come-backs rehearsed and ready. Next time she says, "Love you," answer back, "Oh yeah? Too bad I'm straight and married, huh?" or "Um, did you say you LOVE me? Can I get that in writing, please?" or "Show me the money!" Keep the smart responses coming, and she'll figure it out.
2006-10-15 22:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by uncle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if a guy came in and told another man "I love ya, man". He would not be offended so unless she is getting physical or she is using sex as a bargaining tool I think it is just an expression.
2006-10-15 22:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not appropriate for the workplace PERIOD. If you have told her that this makes YOU uncomfortable and the behavior continues, then yes, you have an issue. I would talk to an HR rep at your company.
2006-10-15 21:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, no it isn't harassment, but it isn't appropriate behavior either. Just tell her you would rather she not address you that way because you don't like it.
2006-10-15 22:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is unprofessional, and highly inappropriate. This also represents an act of unsolicited affection.
2006-10-15 21:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by Edward 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it creates a hostile environment for you, then it is harassment. Document what happened, see if you can get corroboration from others, and take it to HR.
2006-10-15 21:58:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋