please help me no dumb answers,
i am a girl. im not attracted to any of my friends or anything, but sometiems i think other girls are hot. ive looked at lesbian adult websites before because i was curious, but it didnt disgust me. i dont know how to know if im gay or not. i find myself wondering about what it would be like with another girl, but does everyone do that or am i gay? however i can never picture myself in a long term relationship with another women. ive never have acrush on a girl, so does everyone do that or is it just me? when did u know u were gay?
2006-10-15 14:40:26 · 10 answers · asked by Ellen 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Jeez...don't listen to the Goddies...I cannot believe that the US is so freaking repressed. We're headed back for the dark ages, and it's really not a good thing.
What you're feeling is normal. It's curiousity and there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing even wrong with experimentation, if that's what you want. Sex, to me at least, is an expression of love. It's about holding and touching and expressing emotion toward another human being. We are all deserving of touch. We are all deserving of the warmth of two arms around us. If you truly feel a connection to another human being, then don't let that stop you from embracing that. You may not be attracted to women in general. There might be one woman who really does it for you. That's normal. I've been in love with two women at different points in my life, but I'm not gay. Don't limit yourself and cheat yourself out of that intimate connection.
2006-10-15 14:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe we should get those religious terrorist to bomb olga. First of all I think you have a natural curiosity. I started liking girls even before I knew what a lesbian was. Then I figured that is what I was.
I think a lot of people wonder about their sexuality. I think you may just be curious. If you can see yourself having sex with a girl and loving a girl I say you should go out and try it.
If you don't like it you know you are not gay and then you can put it down to experience. Better to be safe than sorry if curiosity gets the better of you.
2006-10-15 15:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still young, so there's really no sure way to know if you're really a lesbian or not. Your lack of disgust when watching lesbian porn could just mean that you have an open mind. Your lack of attraction towards boys could just mean some form of late awakening. What you can do right now is merely experiment. This is fun, as long as you don't do things that can potentially hurt you or others.
Try imagining yourself kissing one of your girl friends. If you can picture yourself doing this, then this might increase the possibility of you being a lesbian or bi.
G'luck! Have clean fun! \m/
2006-10-15 15:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you? are you old enough to have sexual feelings for anyone at all? do you have sexual feelings for boys? if you have sexual feelings for boys and not actual sexual feelings for girls then you are straight. if you have feelings for both then you are bi. if you have none for boyus but some for girls then ur a lesbian. it has nothing to do wiht seing urself in a relationship with someone, some ppl just dont like relationships. i think u were just curious thats all. its not uncommon for a straight guy to acknowledge that another guy is attractive but not actually be attracted himself. its just he knows what girls like. if you do not get turned on by girls in a sexual way then ur straight. dont be worried either way there isnt anything wrong with you.
2006-10-15 14:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by defenderof thehumanright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if the chemistry is there....you would know. I had a crush on a few girls in my life but I thought that was normal. Until I met my soul mate in which I have now been with for 14 years did I realize that those crush's meant something else...I have never been more comfortable in my life....
2006-10-15 14:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is a wonderful thing, even sexual love. Satan has a way of twisting and perverting something God intended for good into something sinful.
No, you are not gay. The devil is putting lies into your head in an attempt to lead you astray. He is trying to steal or rob your hope for a normal future love life. If you give him a chance he will succeed. Find someone you ""trust"" who is a Christian and ask them to help you.
2006-10-15 14:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
start writing that suicide note!
2006-10-15 14:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by OLGA 1 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I don't think you're gay, I just think you're very curiious. And there's nothing wrong with that at all.
2006-10-15 14:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by You Don't Know My Name 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try it , you may like it. It is a very valid qustion, but you will get some very hateful answers here....OLGA, WHITEROSE, etc.....
I say give it a whirl, ya never know til you try it......
2006-10-15 14:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzys_mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont listen to all that satan blah blah blah.
leave it like this, if your gay, eventually you will know.
its truly that simple.
idk how old you are but when you do reach the point where your ready to start expriencing such feelings, and if they are toward a female, you will def. know.
2006-10-15 14:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by justine 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋