2006-10-15 14:36:49 · 25 answers · asked by ashley l 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he said that he was paying bills and wasnt he was buying drugs and do them well my kids were in the house but he reached out for my help and wants my support
2006-10-15 14:41:47 · update #1
hmmm, drugs....well with kids involved I would make him go to a rehab center and tell him when he comes home from there it will be zero tolerance. It's not safe for him to be around your kids right now. You need to not worry about him and his feelings and do what is best for your kids only! HE will say whatever he has to, to keep from losing you....but if he is an addict he is also a lier! Tell him to go get help and then you can talk about your marraige. He obviously was far enough along with it to take from his own children by not paying the bills and doing the drugs around them...SHAME on him for that! Tell him do the right thing now before its too late!
2006-10-15 14:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Shae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex did the same thing. He used the money I made at work and said he was paying the bills, but bought drugs instead. He lied and lied about everything, even about getting help. He wasn't about to stop though. He became abusive and I got away. It was really hard at first, but I realized in the end I had to. (I now have met the man of my dreams and am happier than I ever thought I could be)
If your man is asking for help, he has to go into a rehab or get out of the house, RIGHT AWAY. He shouldn't be around the kids if he is using anyways. If he gets help and continues to stay straight, then give him a chance. People can change.
But just keep in mind, not every body can do it. If he has a relaps in any way, get out with the kids before it's too late. I will light a candle for you. I've been there and it was horrible and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Peace and blessed be.
2006-10-15 22:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may forgive him but it has been my lesson from a previous marriage that it is something you don't forget no matter how hard you try. It seems to be in the back of your mind and makes it very hard to continue unless that trust is rebuilt.beleive me it takes awhile be prepared because it some times{more often than not}takes a long while and just dosen't happen. Sounds like your not a quitter! so give it a shot! It is very hard to just walk out knowing you really love him.
2006-10-15 21:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, can he pay the bills or not. You could have asked to see the receipts right away. Are you upset about the bills not being paid or are you upset about him doing drugs? It sounds like to me that you already knew that he did drugs. Ask him to bring the money to you and let you pay the bills.
2006-10-15 21:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what the lie was! I always believe that marriage is for life but there are always exceptions. Being abused, humilated, neglected and mistreated are not qualities for a wife. If you really want to work things out try counselling.
2006-10-15 21:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, he is reaching out to you for help, so try to help him. He needs to go into rehab, you can't help him to stop using drugs. Trust will come again, once he is clean. Be thankful he told you quickly instead of it going on for years.
2006-10-15 23:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I don't know the full situation so I can only give you general advice.....listen to your heart....
most people deserve a 2nd change.....depending on what the lie was....I would have a meaningful discussion with him and take a few days to yourself and really think about what you want.
2006-10-15 21:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
String him along until you clean out the bank accounts and can make your getaway. Good luck!
2006-10-15 21:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by lifeloom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying is good as cheating,can you really trust him again in your heart really only you really know,good luck on what ever you decide.
2006-10-15 21:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U beter leave him.cause he will cheat u again n run away wit another sexy n hot girl
2006-10-15 21:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Frendlygal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋