I have a 14yr girl and a beautiful home with husband,but i am not feeling attraction. will that come back? so in love with boyfriend, best sex of my life. lived with him for the last year. He loves me very much. He's house is small and no room for my things. My daughter will never meet him because thats why i left my husband. Please help my decide who to be with.
2006-10-15 14:32:04 · 16 answers · asked by NANCY P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to be happy. Do not stay for anyone not even a child. If you love your daughter she will come around in time. As for your new found love...I hope he makes you happy in more ways than just sex. Material items are nothing compared to a great love. They are just things. I hope this helps. I would give away evrything to have my true love again but he is deceased. Enjoy life be in it . Just stay in touch with your daughter often and tell her how much you love her. If the time ever comes for her to move in with you accept her with open arms.LL.
2006-10-15 14:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your daughter can't meet him, then you know you've made a wrong, if not questionable, decision. How long do you plan on living like this where she's concerned?
Did you try to work things out with your husband before you left him? If you are asking, then you must have some doubts about your choice. You can't walk away from your marriage without doing the work it takes to keep things together. Have you divorced your husband or just left him. If you just left him, why are you still hanging on? It really does sound like it's all about the sex. Don't confuse sex with love. Does the new guy feed you emotionally? You don't say that you love him, but that he loves YOU very much.
Sit down and think about how your decision has affected your life, and if it is helping you or hurting you overall. Really think about how you've sacrificed your relationship with your daughter, because you have basically put this guy first. Again, don't confuse great sex with love.
2006-10-15 14:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You made your decision when you left your family, you had hurt your husband and daughter. Now, your thinking of returning home because you do not have the room you need for your things. No matter how much your husband wants you back, you should not return to him. Why? because you will hurt him and your daughter all over again. You do not need a family all you are interested in is your sex life, otherwise you would have done things the proper way by getting divorced first, and then do your own thing. If you don't love him stay away.
2006-10-15 14:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by tiger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very serious delimma that you should seek some professional counseling help to help you decide. Yahoo answers is not the place to guide you. For example, are you willing to lose daily contact with your daughter for this new man? Did you love your husband before you met this new person? If you are having great sex, it's going to be mighty difficult to give that up. It's amazing that your husband wants you back after you cheated on him. It will be a long road to recovery if you go back to your husband, but I wonder if this new man provides anything at all for you besides sex (although that's a powerful attraction). Is this new man capable of making a major commitment to you? Take your time and remember ( not easy to deal with): you hold the future of four people, including yourself, in your hands. It's a big deal.
2006-10-15 14:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by E L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, you left your husband because you fell in 'lust' with another man. I'm assuming that if this affair was a true love connection you wouldn't be questioning anything. You'd want to be with that person no matter what. Lust never lasts, but love and commitment do.
You should consider yourself lucky that your man wants you back. Most wouldn't.
It just goes to show you, a man can give his wife everything and for some reason the wife cannot be satisfied. A beautiful daughter and a nice home, plus a man who is committed to you. You'd give that all up for someone who gave you a good shag?
I will never understand women, and I am one. Doesn't anyone value marriage anymore??
2006-10-15 14:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is more than likely just hurt in a bad way, feeling like his families history has been altered by this event. Although he would probably do anything to get you and his family back, both he and your daughter may never be able to forgive your affair. That is, unless you're completely prepared to seek the same forgiveness that he's willing to offer. Anything less would be a disaster....you have made a mess of things in regards to your family. If he needs some sex tips to keep you satisfied....well, I'm not sure what I can add
2006-10-15 14:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well this happened to me but I was the 14 year old girl. My father left my mom (and me) for another woman. He kept a relationship with me but I have felt a lot of pain through the years. He has also. He has lived with a tremendous amount of guilt for a long time. I can't tell you what to do, nobody on here can, all I can say is to really think about what you are doing because it going to be hard on everyone if you leave. However if you are not feeling any attraction to your husband and you really love this other man than it probably wouldn't be fair to your husband to stay, or to you. Life is too short to spend it with someone you don't love, or someone who doesn't love you. Just understand that great sex is not love and brace yourself for the concequences. Please be there for your daughter no matter what because she will really need your support and patience with getting through this. She will probably be very angry and very hurt and you just need to accept that. Show her you are there but don't rush her to accept your decision. I hope this helps somewhat. Good luck to you whatever you decide.
2006-10-15 14:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, wether you did the right thing or wrong thing when you left your husband does not matter now, but it seems you are not ready to go back to your husband at the moment, your life is too good. Life is short and we have to have happiness, you were in a loveless marriage and when love came along you took it with both hands. The situation may change later and you may see that your present relationship is only lust based or that it is not only lust, but also love, affection and happiness as well, good luck.
2006-10-15 14:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't follow your statement why you left your husband! In my opinion, if you love this guy(boyfriend) then you would be miserable if you went back to your husband. Also, could your husband truly trust you not to repeat the same again? Only you can make this decision. Good Luck.
2006-10-15 14:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly do not love your husband, then you need to end it with a proper divorce. It is unfair to make your daughter live in an unstable world - she is the one paying for your indecisiveness. You are changing who she is right now because you are unwilling to make the sacrifice that comes with leaving a long-term marriage. I personally would make the choice quickly and go back to your family - before you lose everything.
2006-10-15 14:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋