Does your husband play video games?

Question

Do you mind? Mine does, I just hate that he is oblivious to the kids getting into stuff and acting up when he does. Other than that I don't care. What do you usually do when he is playing? I'm doing this :)

Answer 1

Mine does. Sometimes I get the way you are...about the kids and all. Like I could go to the br and come out 2 mins later, my son (2) has given his sister (1) a tube of diaper rash cream and she has eatten it, it's everywhere!!! I know the feeling. Yeah, I am usually on here or on the phone with my sis when he is playing at night. During the day watching the kiddos or piddling on here or on the phone again lol.
Normally I don't mind. He works hard, he needs to have some "me" time. When I want to spend time with him I can, I just try to remember it's his hobby, he allows me mine - I should have the same courtesy. Heck sometimes I tell him if he is good I will buy him a new one...with his $$$$$! LOL
It's just the kid part that bugs me. We used to play need for speed and all the other racing games together, but since I had the kids, I haven't so much. Now it's like he does his thing I do mine!

Answer 2

My husband plays "Civilization" on the computer, and a Tiger Woods video golf game that I bought for him. Both games are "down time" for him after a hard day's work, and, since he doesn't play either excessively, I don't mind it. We bought the download of "Prime Suspect" (an "I Spy" kind of multi-leveled computer game), and play it together (which is great, since so many of the clues are really tiny, and we help each other see them!)

After my first marriage to an alcoholic, drug-abusing cheater who was rarely home (thank god, and that's why he's my EX), I'd MUCH rather have a husband who is right nearby, doing something totally harmless.

On the other hand, if he were the type who got so wrapped up in his games that the house could burn down around him, I would consider that a problem. If that were the case, I might write him a note, telling him that I felt neglected, and rubber-band it around his joystick *wink*

Answer 3

It sounds to me like your husband is frustrated. Playing video games increases a brain chemical called dopamine. This makes your husband feel good. Picking a fight also increases dopamine. In my opinion, playing a video game is a safer alternative.

By the way, going out and getting a girlfriend also increases this hormone. Sex increases it also. Many things increase this hormone.

There should be a balance between work and play. There comes a point in our lives when we need to escape. It seems to me that your husband is escaping. While a little bit of playing is not necessarily wrong, too much might become an addiction. And like any addiction, it is better to find out the cause in order to perhaps curve or stop the addiction.

Would you prefer if your husband was out chasing other women? Would you like it for him to be driving fast and endangering his life? I assume you don't. Talk to him. You might be surprised. He might actually tell you what´s wrong.

But whatever you do, don´t nag. You know what happens when someone nags you. Don´t you?

On second thought, I don't remember if the hormone is testosterone or dopamine. It's one of the two, or maybe both. But no matter what the hormone is, I am sure that your husband wouldn't be spending so much time playing video games if it wasn't giving him some sort of pleasure.

Answer 4

Men will be BOYS!
Nothing should ever be placed in front of spending time with the children though. If you think he is taking too much time away from then I would ask him to play after the kids go to sleep or keep his video game time limited. Even better, ask him to get games that he can enjoy with his children like Mario Kart (racing game for multiple players) or other educational games.

Use the time that he is playing games aka not annoying you to find a hobby you enjoy. Join a book club, Have a friend over to watch a movie, read, help the kids with their homeowork, you can always use this time to gain an even stronger bond with your children.

I hope this helps.

Answer 5

Hi. Yes my honey plays games, and I do with him sometimes. He generally waits until our daughter is sleeping or even asks me if he can play (it's just out of respect, he doesn't need my permission to play) Sometimes, when our daughter's awake, I'll be cooking dinner, and he plays, he is oblivious to her. I will hear her calling for him and I will walk over and get his attention(nicely) and ask him to get our daughter because my hands are chickeny or something. He pauses his game and takes care of her. He has no problem stoping the game to take care of her. So it doesn't bother me. When it gets to the point of your husband tuning out the kids to where they're eating Desitin, then you need to have a talk. If he knows you're gone, the game comes in second. Your kids could hurt themselves and he won't notice. Like I said, they can learn to play and pause long enough to listen to the kids. It's not hard. Just don't go off and tell him no more games, because he's likely to revolt and make both your lives miserable. Games are addicting and should be fun. For both of you. But, yes, the kids come first.

Answer 6

yell at his ***,OK maybe not yell but have a good talk with him. im a man,a husband and a father. i deal with my son first i don't play until he is asleep,at school,or somewhere where im not like bridal showers and baby showers,he gets invites because the women love him lol. but the point is you need to set him straight and quick. i knew a guy that was so oblivious to his wife she had an affair inside the house while he was gaming!!!! It needs to be stopped,i bet he stops if he wants to be with you. watch TV and ignore him

just for the record i play EQ(everquest) the most addictive game in the world.

Answer 7

My b/f soon to be fiance (next month) plays them for hours at a time. I feel like his mother when I nag at him to get off the XBOX. So what do I do? I make lists of chores, give him structured time frames and buy him games I know will make him think. He played football in college so I bought him NCAA 2007. Hey, act like a kid, get treated like one..It seems to have worked so far..

Answer 8

hughh, Most women complain because their husband spends to much time with his friends. Time at home means time spent with you and your family. You must be smart enough to incorporate that time with you and your kids. Ask him to play video games with the kids. Do this in a smart way. Do it as a wager. For example: I bet you can not find a game that you and the kids can play at the same time and have fun? Pick your battles and playing games is probably not one you want to pick.

Answer 9

yes and we have set aside a "family game nite" where we all play together. we have 3 boys ranging from 11 to 6 and we enjoy the family competitiveness. we include our kids in on pretty much everything we do so him playing games doesn't bother me at all because i know he's at home and helping with the kids.

Answer 10

my husband makes video games. drives me crazy. but it brings in the money. and he isnt on them every day. only 3 times a week to test stuff out. so i am okay with it - so far - ha