im real sad. how do i deal with a family divorce??

Question

ok so, my parents just had a HUGE fight and my dad left the house. im not gonna say the reason y they were fiting bc its personal and id rather not say it on here. but im real sad. hoe can i deal with this? my parents were never married but they had two children, me and my younger sister. how can we deal with this?????

o, and my dad moved out. im just asking how can i deal with this? :(

if sum of u rlly need to no in order to answer the question better then i'll tell u wat iot was bout, my mom and dad havent had a relationship in about 6 yrs but he has still been living with us. i love them both very much and i wanted us to be a big happy family. but then my mom said someone had called her saying ''leave my husband alone'' and she said that the lady mentioned my dads name. so that night wen my dad came home she yelled at him and told her to stop givin her cell number to other ppl but he claimed he didnt give it to anyone and my mom said he was a liar. the same lady called bout 4 times but only said if she could talk wit my dad. my mom told him that if he has a new gf then to leave the house and go live wit her instead of havin her botherin my mom. he still said he didnt no who it was and said that it was probably just his friend. so today the lady called again and said if she could speak to my dad. idk wat my mom said but wen my dad got home she yelled at him and ...

......... and told him to leave and strted complaining bc he had been leaving only 15 of bux instead of 200 bux for the past 2 weeks so money was prt of this problem. they just kept fiting until he said that hes leaving and she was glad to hear that. so he left and didnt take any of his stuff. he said he would *** back for his stuff tomorrow. and my mom wants to keep sum of his things bc she owes her alot of money bc she paid some things for him. she took the house keys away from him. im real sad now and i hope that u can help me mor now that i told u all this. thnx.:(

Answer 1

Change and conflict are just awful. My parents went through a divorce and I always dreamed of having a big happy family. The thing that took me a long time to realize was that I did. After my parents were divorced I did have a family - it wasn't the same one I started with - it was better. My Dad was happy, my Mom was happy. Life has a way of closing doors and opening windows. It will be sad. It will be hard but you can get through it. There is a group at almost all churches and schools called Rainbows. You should look for one in your area and go. It's for children of divorce. Good luck and hang in there. It will get better.

Answer 2

Without knowing what it was about, I can only say it's possible they will work it out and this may not be the end. Sometimes huge fights happen and adults storm out of the house or pack some stuff and leave, but after sleeping on it, and evaluating feelings, they try to work it out and everything turns out ok.

If this is a big deal and a reconciliation is not possible, be supportive of your mom if you're living with her, and your dad too. Their happiness is important, and if they can't be happy together, then it may be for the best if they separate. It doesn't mean that they don't love you or that it's your fault. Just ask them to talk to you about it, and don't be afraid to say how you feel to them. But don't expect them to stay together just for you. That may sound like a great deal at first, but if forced to stay together, things in your house might not be pleasant. Good luck!

Answer 3

Its personal and your not going to say....if its not an affair then I am not typing this.

If it was an affair then you can't expect the betrayed spouse (parent) to "just get over it." Their separation/divorce is nothing you can do anything about.

They are your parents and you love them, divorced they will still be your parents and you will love them. Whatever the reason, they are adults, they know what they need to be happy.

I wish there was a way to sugar coat an answer like this, but there isn't. You came for advice...my advice...stay out of it and love both of them. One of them is at fault, don't take sides.

Answer 4

Its normal for a person to be affected by a fight between the parents. I don't know how old you are, but it's important for you to understand that the fight was between your parents. It was not between you and your parents.

Sometimes parents get angry and say things without thinking. And children feel that their whole world is coming down on them.

You should discuss this with your mother. It's important that you share your concerns with her. If she doesn't want to talk, perhaps you should get a school counsellor or some other adult whom you can trust. In any event, don't keep it to yourself.

Answer 5

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 6

quite than break up, attempt a separation. tell him he needs to decrease the cord, or you are going to bypass on. it quite is an risky relationship that he has along with his mothers and dads, and he needs to attain how severe you're approximately it. tell him of course the type you sense, supply him a call to make, and then take off for a mutually as. possibly in basic terms a holiday with the toddlers to a kin member's abode or something. If he won't attempt to create a fit relationship along with his mothers and dads, they are consistently going to be greater considerable than you and your toddlers are to him, and thats a huge pink flag that it's time to get out of that relationship.

Answer 7

I hope wat i say helps... my parents have been divorced for ten years and i know how you feel. it hurts cuz you feel like ur to blame... well its not you so dont blame you or ur sister, hold on to her and let her know your there for her you need her as much as she needs you. trust me, i also have a little sister. Just hope that what ever happened/happens that itll all work out for the better... if you need any more help ask again. it doesnt hurt it actually helps to have someone to talk to. I'm here for you... even though we dont know each other.

Answer 8

Would you rather see your parents happy and seperated than seeing both your parents together,unhappy and sick? Because in this case you parents are unable to live with each other harmoniosly.