preferance. I am a lesbian and now that i came out to her she has seem more flurty with me, some times shes the same as she allways is but then i catch her saying things like she had a sexual dream about me and stuff like she likes my body and that im beautiful. but then she cutts off and gos back to "friend" talk. Im starting to think she might whant to have more of a sexual friend relationship, but my question is should i confront her on this and if i do how? or should i let it be so it dosnt ruin our friendship of so so long and make it weird???
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2006-10-15 14:15:15 · 14 answers · asked by brandy t 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh and to add on--i have allways liked her that way,but not madly in love just in lust
2006-10-15 14:22:10 · update #1
umm pooh bear she is 25 the same age as me not 13 that is just wrong!!!!
2006-10-15 14:23:41 · update #2
It is pretty much up to you how to confront it. If you think you like her that way or would like to try something like that with her then talk to her about it. Tell her that you would like more. But if you are unsure then maybe wait and see what happens first.
2006-10-15 14:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by sweetm12004 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Friends for 13 years, wow, congrats.
If you are attracted to her, then, understand, if you do pursue this and things do not work out... the friendship will become un-comfortable for you both. This sounds like a strong lasting friendship, so the next time she says she was with you in a dream, ask her if it is just a dream or is it a wish. Start with that.
If you are comfortable and want to be with her, then I say GO FOR IT!
Now, stand back for a minute and ask yourself, Is your friend only expressing her joy that you and she now have one more thing in common as friends. Good luck with what ever you choose.
2006-10-15 21:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by 4mom 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yeah... I would confront her... you know most of the time when friends become intimate... then when it ends, the sex... the friendship is lost... so what's more important to you her friendship or a little fling that may not go anywhere... this question you need to pose to yourself and her...
Another concern I have... even though it's not one of your question... is her helping you to realize your are gay... did she do this in hopes of a relationship with you... I'm not saying that your true feelings toward being with women is wrong... because only you know who you really are... it's just that she was so involve in you coming out... I think I would keep her for a friend... just a feeling I have... hope this helped
And all you bashers... may you burn in he%^&*LL
2006-10-15 21:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's probably trying to see how you respond. She doesn't want to just come right out & say she's seriously interested in you in a sexual way, possibly for the same reason you don't know how to respond to her comments -she doesn't want to jeopardize your friendship. I'd talk to her about it (notice I didn't use the word "confront", as I don't think you should be confrontational about it) & just tell her that she seems to be sending you mixed signals and you don't know how to respond. Go ahead & tell her that you have thought about her in that way, but you don't want to lose her friendship no matter what the two of you decide to do. Good luck.
2006-10-15 22:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's more important for you to consider whether you're attracted to her or not. If you are, then I suggest you confront her about this. I like relationships that form out of friendships. They're more real for me. G'luck!
2006-10-15 21:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may want to send you some signals that she is interested, but she probably wants to give you some time to "be" lesbian. It can be strange, but she probably wants you to be sure of your sexual orientation without her being involved. Once you have a few experiences and relationships she may be more willing to have a sexual relationship, but wants you to know she finds you desirable, etc.
2006-10-15 21:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think if you like her then maybe you should explore a different type of relationship...and if you dont want a relationship she could always be ur ***** buddy ;)
but if your uncomfortable then you should definitely let her know that her flirting isn't gonna get her anywhere cuz your friendship means too much to jeopardize.
2006-10-15 21:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not interested in being intimate w/ her, you definetly need to discuss this. You've been friends for a long time, surely you'll find the words. Silence will ruin the friendship.
Congrats on being true to yourself!
2006-10-15 21:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
True gay women are a bit like men, they want to sow their seed and primarily enjoy the chase and climax, you don't sound gay and may find she wasn't so much helping you out as helping herself.
2006-10-15 21:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i would say just tell her it cant hurt anything if she likes you then ok if not then ok 2 you all are grown and it wont hinder a friendship to ask.
2006-10-15 21:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by beautifulpersona 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋