This is a serious question and I want a serious answer.
I agree its nice for both partners in a marriage to have sexual experience prior to marriage, but should it be with each other? Also, will too much of it with each other spoil the chances of a happy future married life?
Thoughtful and thought provoking answers from experienced people will be appreciated. You may rule out issues like HIV, STD, etc. when answering.
2006-10-15 14:12:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Read the questions and it seems to be the attitude of yes try before you buy against keep yourself for marriage. Personally I was the latter and 18 years later I am still loving marriage. My choice to not try before you buy was the attitude that comes with this of. If you dont like, you just move on...this is worrying for two reasons. Firstly the sex is the basis for a relationship and secondly who seriously wants someone who has has sex with a string of other people. Most if they were honest want a virgin when they marry.
2006-10-15 23:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by twinkletoes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would premarital sex stop you from having a happy marriage? Most married couples have sex before they are married, its not uncommon at all. Personally I am for premarital sex as it gives you an idea of what you two share intimately before you marry them. I'm not married to my boyfriend yet but we were together 2 years before we had sex.. and when we did it was a beautiful, special experience. We've since been together for 4 1/2 years. Whether its premarital or not I dont think it really matters.
2016-03-28 10:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you believe that having sexual partners before marriage is a plus? There is nothing good about it. There will always be others to compare your spouse to, and others that can pop into your head during times of intimacy with you spouse...are these things a plus to the relationship. As far as having sex with each other prior to marriage - this should also be saved for the marriage. Your relationship should be based on more then sex. By many of the answers it sounds as if people think you should test drive before committing. This is so wrong, and sets the marriage up for failure. It should be built on trust, commitment, and love. Sex is a gift to the married couple, and should NOT be the REASON for the marriage! If your marriage is build on these things, then your intimacy will be great. If both are physically and emotionally committed to ONLY each other , things in the bed room won't lack spark, nor excitement. If you have a emotional intimate relationship, then you can connect easily, and this is what creates for great love making.
When you bring along with you memories and experiences of others from the past that's when you get into trouble.
Besides, being a believer of the Lord, I know premarital sex in any shape or form is wrong.
2006-10-15 14:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by Cjs 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you should sleep with your partner before you get married so you both know what each over likes and dislikes before,,,,,this makes a great sexual relationship by the time the your big day comes ,,,and your honeymoon nite can be full of passion because you both know what things to do,,,,,and there wont be any mistakes,,,,,,,,,,i think sex in marriage only dies if you let it i say spice it up all the time,,,,Ive been with my husband for 20 years i never settled down with him until i was 25 i still had other partners until we got married since then i have been threw bad and good but our sex life has always been very good ,,,, my husband loves every minute ,,,,,i have got a very high sex drive and i am very open minded i would say be adventurous and never be shy to tell your partner what you love to do,,,,,,,,,,
2006-10-15 15:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While sex is very important, marriage is much more than sex.
If the sex is very good, but you have nothing else in common, there will be problems. If you have many things in common, but the sex is bad, there will be problems.
Hell, even if you have many things in common and have great sex, there will be problems.
Maybe I should not call them problems. Maybe I should say there will be difficulties. After all, life is not easy at all.
In addition, since we don't have a crystal ball, it is impossible for us to know what's the best thing. Life is a gamble. Our choices might not always be the right choices, but we have no way of knowing at the time we make the choices.
In the long wrong, no matter what anyone tells you, you are the one who has to make the decision of whether or not to have sex, not have sex, marry someone, not marry someone, etc. etc. So just hope you make the right decision which, of course, you might feel is right today. But tomorrow, you might feel it was wrong.
In either case, just pray that everything will work out. And if you ever have any problems that cannot be resolved by your husband and yourself, get professional help. Sometimes a marriage can be saved that way.
2006-10-15 14:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Hopeful 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I say it can be a good thing for one thing you do need to know what ure getting yourself into because sex does have alot to do with marriage admit it u want it 2 b good right? my husband and I had ALOT of sex before marriage with each other of course! and it hasn't hurt our marriage in any way just don't let it be all about sex its only a plus to marriage. I say that as long as the both of you can let your past go then other partners before marriage shouldn't be an issue my husband and I were honest and told each other how many and who we were with before the 2 of us. We don't bring it up and throw it up in each other's faces as a token of each others trust to each other. Although the past is the past and you can't change it. I hope this helps and good luck!
2006-10-15 14:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by brittney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-28 12:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? too much sex with the one you love? hmmm...interesting concept. i've been with my husband for 10 years, married for 7 and i still want to jump him when he walks through the door. (most of the time anyway) we are mostly happy and none of our marital issues have ever had anything to do with sex. we've never strayed either. i don't think sex before marriage will hurt the marriage. anyway, what if she makes ungodly noises during, or just lies there? wouldn't that be something you'd want to know before hand?
2006-10-15 14:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally disagree with premarital sex. You can never be sure before you marry that you are going to marry (she could leave you standing at the altar) and if you marry someone else, you have given to that first person what you could have given to your wife. Oh, and if your wife happens to not be particularly confident she could end up wondering whether you are comparing her with your previous lovers. That is something that no man or woman needs.
2006-10-17 02:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old school - one partner - each other . 33 years of marriage
& wedding night was WOW! & all 33 years have been fanatastic.
No need to comparison shop, pick out the best model right off & you are never sorry!
2006-10-15 14:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋