2006-10-15 14:05:07 · 24 answers · asked by daisy720702002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey I cannot imagine what you're goin through!
And depending on your situation I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you and your baby. All I can say is that whatever you decide it will be hard and require so much effort from you. I just hope that you have great family and friends support to help you through this!
I wonder if he knows about the pregnancy? Sorry if thats a stupid question but it may change his outlook and how he would want to be a part of this new life, because his actions from here on in will influence the decisions you will make.
I can only hope that things work for you in a way which you can cope and that you'll be a wonderful mother.
2006-10-15 14:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you really feel about your husband? Cheating is a major mistake. It destroys the trust and love between two people. Do you love him enough to take him back? Can you forgive him?
Does he want to come back? Was this a one-time deal or has he done it before? Does he still love you?
You need to find someone you trust to talk about this. It is an emotional time for you with the hormones flowing. You need help to see things clearly. You need to look at the options you have for the future.
2006-10-15 21:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him about the pregnancy. That's the right thing to do. You don't have to stay together if you don't want to. He would have to put an end to the cheating and really commit to the marriage and to being a father. But there's no guarantee he'll be faithful. You have to figure out what you want, and can you trust him if he asks to work it out.
Maybe if you get some space and time between you it may be easier to figure out what to do. Be careful about over reacting with the hormones being how they are. It's difficult to make any rational decisions when you are so mixed up from them! Good luck!
2006-10-15 21:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, sense lots of man hatred here on this one
"cut his balls off"
"hit him"
"sue him for child support"
listen, you do whatever you want to do, but remember, you are pregnant and now no longer are just responsible for yourself, you are not responsible for making descisions that will affect your unborn childs future.
you can stay with your husband and "make his life miserable" but that will only make things worse and he will cheat on you some more and even leave you.
you can try to stay with him and forgive him and work things out and maybe things will turn out ok.
you can leave him and try to find someone new out there to be with and maybe get stuck with someone that is better or worse than what you had
everything relies on your descisions of what to do now, and anger is not a good descision maker, just an emotion.
make the descisions that you need to make to ensure a better future for you and most importantly for your child, whatever those descisions may be
i've been through it
2006-10-15 21:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont feel that you could forgive him and have a happy marriage then dont stay with him just for the child. If you arent happy in your marriage and you and your husband always fight then it will only hurt you and the child. A child needs to be a part of a happy home.
2006-10-15 21:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweetm12004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soooooooo sorry!!! I know stupid question but are you sure he is cheating on you? Have you confronted him about it?
Well i think that it is up to you, if you want to forgive him then do it. If not then leave and collect child support. There will be plenty of people out there to help you.
2006-10-15 21:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy-Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems to me that you should know if you are going to keep the baby whether or not your husband cheated.
2006-10-15 21:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Hwy2?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both go to counseling. If he refuses, then it's not worth the relationship. That's the only way, this is going to work.
I hate to say this but you should not have this kind of stress during a pregnancy. It's too risky for miscarriages.
2006-10-15 21:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me that is something that only you can decided. granted you can stay with him for the childs sake or move on and find someone that is willing to treat you right with respect to start off. if it were me, i'd be gone...i have zero tolerance for that crap...i have an 8 month old son and if i found out that my fiance was cheating, we would be gone...good luck
2006-10-15 21:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jeni O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to give you more tailored advice i'd need a lot more info... but you have to ask yourself if you can live with it without it hanging over your head everyday. this can cause some serious misery if you can't let it go. i have a friend in that situation. if you can, and you think you'd be better off with him, ask yourself what kind of marriage you watn for your baby. as what kind of home do you want for your child. i think you already know what you want to do. you just want us to agree with you. follow your instincts. they're rarely wrong. good luck.
2006-10-15 21:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋