Simple should i be faithful to my wife if shes not to me?

Question

what more can I tell you shes unfaithful.

Answer 1

Dont lower yourself to her standards. Then she cant throw it up in your face and you will be the better person....also, two wrongs dont make a right.

Answer 2

First of all you need to find out why she is being unfaithful. She may have some issues that have not been discussed with you. Past issues from her childhood or some old resentments toward you. If you love her, you really need to work it out with her. There are some situations that cannot be resolved if this is one of those then the relationship may be over, but just try to work it out first. And yes, be faithful. Two wrongs do not make a right.

Answer 3

Well if she is unfaithful and i can see you don't li ke that i must ask why are you with her!
i mean there is no excuse for cheating.... none!
It wasn't ment to be! At least that's how i see it! my and my boyfriend agree! We both are strict on marrage tho to! I think a lot of people jump into it to quickly! .. But she is your wife so i can see the battle within i mean you love her i'm sure you do or you wouldn't of wed.
This is where you have to ask yourself the question... can i be happy knowing my wife the women i loved was touched my other hands while she was under my love...
I must say if you leave her it will not be easy... not sure how long you where wed for but i will say this... change is hard and fearful! but its also a part of life! if you don't like one part of your life change it if you don't like all of your life then start at one point and keep working!
Life is hard! don't let anyone tell you any differn't!
Love is so strong! if you can honstly look past what she did and not let it hender anything ever.. then try to work it out!
I for one! wouldn't care I'm happy being who i am your other half should be a bonus not a burnden at least not all the time! :) lol ..
But to turn around and cheat is just cold hearted and your just as bad as her! I would break it off and start a new life!
Good luck dude!
Mad luv

Answer 4

If it's to the point where you're both wanting to be unfaithful, or to be unfaithful just to get back at the other person, the relationship is pretty much over with, don't you think? Unless of course you both want to be in an open relationship. If you're both cool with the other one sleeping around, then more power to you.

Answer 5

Do both of you want to stay together? If not, move out and file a separation agreement. No matter, what it is not your fault. If you decide to stay married, get counseling. I think that either way you should stay faithful, and hire a private detective a get proof. You can hold up your head high, and have your dignity. I have been in your place; and it is not easy, but you have to do what is best for you. Life will continue, and you will have to live with your decisions. Think long and hard, before you do anything spontaneous.

Answer 6

Has she ever explained why she is? What is it that she feels a need to look elsewhere. You deserve better than to be treated so shabbily. And it's not a question of being faithful if she's not to you. It's a matter of doing what you feel is right and moral. If you're looking too for an excuse to cheat, that's not it. But you deserve better, and need to ask yourself, do I want to continue to be treated this way, with no respect for my feelings? And give her a choice - you or the affair, and that you deserve better than to be treated like sloppy seconds. And it'll be difficult for you, because you obviously love her very much to have remained faithful in spite of her behavior. Best of luck.

Answer 7

yes you should be faithful to her eventhough. both of you took the vows so you should honor them

solutions to the problem could be either divorce or counseling.
I suggest counseling because maybe there is a reason why she is doing this and maybe you and her could resolve the problem.

i know that she has hurt you but maybe you can work it out. and please don't take the wife's tale of once a cheater always a cheater because this is not true. just because it happened once it doesn't mean that it would happen again.

I truly understand why that you want to cheat because of retaitalliation but this is not the solution because it causes more problems than what already exists.

good luck to ya

Answer 8

If your wife is unfaithful that's good grounds for divorce if you choose to do that. Be a better person than her, and divorce her before seeking another relationship.

Answer 9

Yes, you should be faithful to your wife...it's the grown-up thing to do. Work things out together or split up so you both can date others and not be cheaters.
Why be in a marriage if no one is being faithful?
Cheating is immature and selfish...if you start acting that way too, what will it accomplish?

Answer 10

Well... 2 wrongs don't make it right.

When you cheat on your partner, you're only hurting yourself. You are the one who will have to live with your own infidelity.

You should pull your wife aside and talk to her about her shenanigans. If, after having the talk with her, you decide you can't live with her anymore... get a divorce. If there are kids involved, you better think long and hard about it.

Then, once the divorce is final, you can start dating again. Think of how nice it will be to be able to proclaim "She cheated on me but I remained faithful to the end." It will make your future partner trust you, too.

Good Luck.

Answer 11

then you need to walk your butt out of the house... and into your car and go to your lawyers office. You need to leave as soon as you can. Is this the way you really want to spend your life. Its a bad way to live for kids and the parents... Bad example for the kids.... been there in your shoes. Leave. BUT If you insist on trying.... go to marriage therapy .. this way you know what your doing wrong ... and wont ruin the next relationship .. because you couldnt figure out this one....... you need to do something. either therapy or some talking .