she sas hes bad becuse he likes to pick and call me names and tells me what to do .. i do what i waant aways whats so bad about that
2006-10-15 13:49:09 · 8 answers · asked by LYNN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she might be concerned for your well being . . .from an outside perspective it looks like you may be being mistreated in the marriage.
consider seeing a counselor for a few sessions.
2006-10-15 13:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is not necessarily trying to get you to leave your hubby. She might be trying to make you see things that you might not be seeing. Sometimes we are so close to something that we fail to see the complete picture. Or we might be denying it. A person who finds it necessary to pick on someone, call them names, and tell them what to do might be trying to get control over that person.
I personally believe that a couple has to work out their differences, but before they can do that, they have to admit there is a problem. It's like anything else in life. For instance, if you don't admit you drink too much, you will never give up drinking.
It also sounds to me as if your husband is very insecure. Hence he needs to call you names and tell you what to do. However, I don't know you. It might also be that you are out of control, and you won't accept anything your husband tells you. Maybe he is reacting to your attitude.
It might also be that your best friend is very independent and your husband is afraid that you will become like her. Again, I don't have all the facts.
2006-10-15 21:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Hopeful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to stay out of Ur marriage. If he's really the bad person she says he is, U'll know soon enough. By that time just ask her to get a life.
2006-10-15 21:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by daisy770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a best friend's job to tell you even the things you don't want to hear. If my best friend was with someone calling him names and telling him what to do...hey, I'd say something too.
2006-10-15 20:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she's trying to come between u and ur hubby.....put her in your past where she belongs....as long as you love your hubby and his "name calling" is just teasing.....stay with him...if he gets abusive, that's when it will become an issue and you'll need to leave......your safety is most important.....Good luck!!
2006-10-15 20:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is seeing something you don't regardless of whether you do your own thing or not. Then again nobody truly knows what happens behind closed doors.. talk to her!
2006-10-15 20:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by fancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all she is not your friend. (as friends do not act like this)
secondly I guess she does not have a boyfriend.
thirdly she is jealous.
Tell her if she does not change then she is not welcome in your home.
2006-10-15 20:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by jizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants you to leave and then she'll be trying to hook up with him!
2006-10-15 20:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋