Can someone explain why i can't orgasm during sex?

Question

Hey, Im 18 years old and have somewhat of an embarrassing question. I've been with my loving boyfriend for about 4 months now. We have been sexually active and I have yet to experience an orgasm. Sometimes sex even hurts, like a bad cramp in my lower abdomen. I'm guessing it is the position we are using, but I would like to know why I can't orgasm and why it hurts!! (i have been sexually active for about a year, with one other person being my only sexual encounter, could it be time as well?) I don't know, maybe I am being selfish with wanting an orgasm, because in a sense sex isn't about an orgasm it's about sharing love...but i want one! =/ HelP!!

Answer 1

Can you please yourself to orgasm?


If so, you can tell your bf what makes you feel better.


If you cannot orgasm by yourself, you should try a vibrator.

Answer 2

Being a woman who's never reached an orgasm during intercourse I can tell you it's nothing to worry about. It will come eventually. I actually know a lot of girls/women who have never had one. There are other ways to reach a climax, and trust me they are so good, I don't know how an intercourse orgasm could possibly be any better. About the hurting part: try to use more lubrication, have him slow down, or if it doesn't get better, see a doctor.

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with wanting an orgasm. My first question would be lubrication. If you aren't properly lubricated affects like you described can and do occur. I would suggest trying various jellies and lubricants until you find one that works for you. The second thing is make sure you are healthy. I would go to a gynecologist and ask these questions and make sure you're in good shape for sex. I'm sure you'll be ok. It's no fun when you can't enjoy a special momment. I hope it works out.

Answer 4

Some women cannot have an orgasm from sexual intercourse. If you cannot achieve an orgasm from sex or other means of stimulation, OR if you had orgasms in the past and suddenly cannot achieve one at all, then you may have Inorgasmia. It's treatable for many women.

Answer 5

What you can do is, practice with a dildo and try to find your g-spot, once you've found it, focus on it and try to bring yourself to orgasm with that method alone. If you can do that, then you can trasnfer that knowledge to sex with your bf and guide him to that spot, or better yet, ride on top of him so you can control the angle and the depth to hit where you know it has to be.
The other option is to rub your clit while he's having sex with you...Assuming you already know how to reach orgasm through this method?

Answer 6

ok well because your 18 your body is still going through changes.what i would say is wait a few days between each time you do have sex and try different positions also relax.take a warm shower before and maybe a little foreplay.they also have warming ky gel out that works wonders well good luck

Answer 7

Your boyfriend can not make you orgasm, until you have taught your body to do so first.

It is a fact.

You need to manually masturbate at home to become able to orgasm.

Once that is achieved, you train him how to do it.

Answer 8

Regarding your pain: It could be that your bf is "going too deep", he could be thrusting to hard, or could the position that you two are in. Regarding no "O"s: some females just can't achieve orgasm through just intercourse, try oral or "manual" stimulation. Happy Lovin'! ;-)

Answer 9

well your bf isnt that great then lol but some women cant have orgasms having sex. he probably gonna have 2 do oral sex that will do the job. lol

Answer 10

if it's hurting try another position, tell him to go slow, if you still can't reach yours, then make you an appointment at your nearest clinic tell them your problem and they will help you....