A friend of mine is leaving her spouce. He is well aware of the situation and as can be imagined he is upset but understanding. He is keeping the house for the time being and she has rented an apartment. She will need to start packing her belongings these next two weeks. What is the easiest way to do this with out it becoming awkward and uncomfortable for both of them?
2006-10-15 13:34:16 · 20 answers · asked by qnas4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Best to ask her to move out her stuff when he's not in. if he's going to be there 24/7, then close the door when packing. If its that difficult, then....I don't know.
2006-10-15 13:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the situation for the break up is, but if they are having doubts about it, then they both should help her move out. This way something in their heads my click, and both may start talking about why the relationship is ending, and some resolution may be worked out. If they are leaving on a bad note, then he should put every things of his, go somewhere, and her come in to get her belongings.
2006-10-15 13:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done this twice in my life....It is better if he is at work, and also she must not leave any mess!!
It should be done very carefully also....as when he gets back, it may be hard for him...e.g.memories etc...It can set off the most hardest of men.I suggest, she also tell him what day it will take place...and that he has a friend to go back home with him.....I am not on his side or hers....Just a better way of doing things....he is left, in the same place..if you know what I mean.She also should have one or two people to be there, and help...The quicker the better.Plus, she may need support...I am sure she would...In any case, this is one of the hardest things one may have to do...in life.
2006-10-15 13:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean being awkward for you being there helping her pack? If he is understanding like you say then all should be well. She is your friend and female and he probably will understand that. Just still be polite and just be there for the both but more for her at the time being. Sounds like it will be okay.
2006-10-15 13:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Florida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a separation is never easy. it is good to know they are separating under amicable circumstances. It might be a good idea to try to pack things when maybe one or the other is at work. that way the most uncomfortable part is done away from the view of the other.
2006-10-15 13:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do not both need to be in the house at the same time. Too much frustration can occur...i went to a concert and let my husband do his thing, and when i returned i picked up the pieces alone...it is best that way.
2006-10-15 13:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Elly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to decide who gets what. They can write it out on paper what they want; then they will have to barter what's fair!
She should try to pack up the items and move the items out when he's not home!
2006-10-15 13:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it when the other is gone either at work or the store for the guy just tell him to go to walmart or the local auto part store that will take up atleast an hour
2006-10-15 13:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most comfortable way is for the couple to decide themselves without you sticking your nose into it. After that, help your friend in whatever way he/she may need. Offer support without getting drawn into it.
2006-10-15 13:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get this done with a few friends and not involve him in the process. Plus, she needs to empty her stuff out when he isn't there.
2006-10-15 13:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋