Everyone seems to want to know what names we've chosen for the baby, then feels the need to give their opinion on them. If I cared what they wanted to name it, I'd have asked them before we settled on names! I don't want to offend people though, especially not family. How do I handle it when people criticize our name choices?
2006-10-15 13:28:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I avoided that situation by telling people that we would not make a final decision until the baby is born, that way we would know what name 'fit' her. I did give people 3-4 possible names that we had chosen, including the one that we were pretty set on. This gave family & friends a chance to have an opinion, without actually criticizing our final choice.
Most, if not all, of the criticism will stop once the baby is born and had his/her name permanately attached to their character.
2006-10-15 20:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different on this. What worked for us was to pick a few names, then when we "met" our kids - we chose the best fitting name from our short list. Until they were born and named, we kept the list to ourselves. If anyone pushed, we'd give something off the wall like Bosco or Cleophus.
Best thing to keep in mind is to not let anyone interfere with having or raising your children. And don't let it get to you if people try - because they inevitably will. Most are probably well meaning. But the bottom line is that your kids are your responsibility. Doesn't hurt to listen to others, especially those whose knowledge you value - but make your own decisions.
Naming is just the beginning of what can be a long string of unwanted interference, back seat driving, and monday morning quarterbacking. Don't let it get to you.
Good luck!
2006-10-15 13:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean because I am going through the exact same thing. People want to give me there opinion and I do not care because the names that they are telling to use are stupid. I told a few of my family members that I have not made up my mind yet.
I have a name but I will not mention it too anyone until my baby gets here.
It is none of there business and you have the right to name your baby what ever you want. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-15 13:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children and one on the way. I have decided this time around not to tell anyone the name of the baby until he or she is born, for the exception of my parents and friend. Im not even telling my in laws. I hate the criticism that I always got too. And so far one person has asked me this, I told them the name and they made a face. So after that, I said forget it, Im keeping it to myself.
2006-10-15 13:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem also, especially when we continued the custom in my husband's family of calling our son by his middle name. People ask all the time, "Well if you call him Sean, why not make Sean his first name??".
I just stare at them and said "I'm sorry. Someone forgot to tell me I needed to get other opinions before I named MY baby."
That usually shut them up. It's very rude, but so many people feel the need to over rule what you choose for your baby. I'm sure they don't mean it that way, but it sure comes across as such.
2006-10-15 13:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that its your choice on what you choose to name your baby ( the parents of the baby have the only say in naming their child)
Some people are just like that and think they should have the right name your baby what they choose
Most people have special reasons for naming their baby and I wish you luck in choosing the name of your baby Boy or Girl Don't worry about the others they will have to eventually accept whatever you both choose
2006-10-15 13:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by evillynn8098 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually fib and say we haven't decided yet. We've had a name picked out for months now and still haven't told our parents (I'm 33 weeks). Everyone is dying to know, but I figure, they can wait. They all also assume I'm going to pick some weird off the wall name, so I'm letting them sweat it out. I don't want all the opinions either.
As for people and their opinions...shrug it off. It's your child and really none of their business.
If you have a special reason for choosing a certain name and feel like you need to explain to someone, just tell them how important it is to you. But really, I'd just ignore them.
2006-10-15 13:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant, everyone had to put their two cents in about naming our baby. It's normal. Just tell them the names you've chosen, and if they have any issues with it, oh well. Tell them you wouldn't want to be rude & help name their baby, so you'd like the same respect!
2006-10-15 13:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by tigerlily27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell them that you have decided on the name, but you want to wait until after the baby is born to tell everyone. My son and daughter-in-law did that.
2006-10-15 13:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Country Hick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them...u wud name the baby depending upon what name u find most promising and applealing just when u have the first look at the baby.
2006-10-15 13:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by tuxtuxotuxoc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋