2006-10-15 12:24:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on what they're doing. Some offenses can be overlooked. Some only require once to be cut off.
2006-10-15 12:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what they mess up on if it's not serious then I would say that three times is ok but if it's something like cheating or anything along those lines I would not give them a second chance. It's really hard to say when I don't know what the person messed up on.
2006-10-15 12:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cathleen Spencer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three is a popular number in sports. Whether or not someone messes up or not is all too often a matter of someone else's opinion. Your heart will tell you how many times is enough. Until then, keep forgiving.
2006-10-15 12:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by mellow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it love? if you love this person, there is never a "too much." if it's infidelity you're dealing with, look not only to them for the reasons but also to yourself. if you've been so giving and loving and they're still "cheating" on you, then you have to make that choice. if you truly and deeply love them, you'll stick by them no matter how many times they "mess up." often it's a defect in someone's thinking, like a lack of security, a need for release of energy that he/she doesn't think you could handle, partly selfishness, but most of all it's because that person is lacking something emotionally, which drives them to their infidelity. counseling is not always the answer, but it can help sometimes. you've just got to look at how your life would be without that person in it, then make your own choice. good luck!!
2006-10-15 12:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by vrandolph62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what they are doing. Everybody has a different 's*#t level' for me its very low so i don't tend to give too many chances. I try and live life being kind to others and respecting others as much as i can. If the other person can't do the same for me then maybe we aren't meant to be.
Remember a leopard can not change its spots.
2006-10-15 12:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends (for me) on:
1) their relationship to me...family, friend, boyfriend?
2) mess up in what way? how serious?
People can make mistakes...typically (this is very generalized because you gave us nothing really to go on and there are variables) once could probably be forgiven...a 2nd "mess up" is iffy, but after that I'd probably say "sorry, goodbye"...
But again, it depends on the issue...one might be the dealbreaker...or 3 or 4 might be tolerable...what "mess up" are we talking about?
2006-10-15 12:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 chances is plenty, maybe even a little excessive. follow your heart. if you feel in your heart that the person deserves a third shot and you can handle giving them one, then go for it. but if they mess up again this time, no more chances. like they say in baseball, three strikes and you're out. thats my policy
2006-10-15 12:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it totally depends on what the mess up is. IF he forgot to call you once or something...thats not a big deal.
IF he cheated on you thats a big deal and ..i wouldnt give someone more than 1 chance with that...MAYBE 1 more chance... but usually people who cheat will cheat again even if they dont think they will (they dont plan on cheating but then they meet someone and its just impulsive)
if its just small things...talk to him about it and give him another chance.. .if its something serious...dont give that many chances because you are making it easier for you to be hurt more.
2006-10-15 12:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by swyftsilver84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by 'mess up' and who the person is. If it's a guy you've been dating for a couple of months and he cheats on you: I would dump him immediately. If it is your best friend who you've known forever and you know they aren't a bad person, they just made a mistake, then stick by them as long as you can and try to help them if you can as much as possible.
2006-10-15 12:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the situation? how much you love the person what the mistakes where, where they that serious or where they little. do you make mistakes? no one is perfect but if you see yourself with this person for a long time and you can have a future together dont sweat the small stuff
2006-10-15 12:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋