Help! Which is worse? Lying about it or keeping quiet about it?

Question

Which do you prefer, or do you hate both?
e.g he lied to you that he wasn't talking to his ex- anymore.
or he never admitted that he wasn't talking to his ex- anymore.?
have guys tried to use silence as a way out? whats your opinion.

Answer 1

I think lying is always worse..You need to examine why you are talking to you ex....

Answer 2

Most people, once they find out something like this has been kept from them... feel just as deceived as if you'd lied to them. If there's nothing going on between you and the ex,... why not just say you spoke to her? If there is something going on.... lying and omitting are the same... take your chances with which ever you think is more likely to get you out of trouble.... or better yet,... stop talking to your ex.... lol

Answer 3

Whats in the dark always come to light. If it is innocent there is no reason to lie in the frist place. There is nothing to say ex' can't end a relationship on mutual terms. Why lie and say your not talking to your ex when you are and if your partner doesn't know you are talking to your ex why keep it from them?

Answer 4

I expect honestly always regardless of how painful it may be. Keeping secrets is never a good thing, and lying is even worse. My husband kept from me that he was cheating, I never suspected it and only found out because he gave me an std. Now we are separated, which proves that deceit is never a good outcome.

Answer 5

i never live to tolerate both and i broke of with my ex too cause he was lying so much one after another, although i can feel he's lying and he can tell i feel it too then one day he couldn't take it himself anymore and told me all his lies that he had lied and that's the end of the relationship. couldn't be taking too much risk to live with a person that can't be trusted cause i might even lost my life for that later so i choose to get out from it before it's too late to give myself a better chance to live a life.

Answer 6

Gee Jack, are you the silent type or a blabber?? Personally, I hate liars. I have said to my partner that he can do what he wants, as we don't own each other, but please don't lie to me. If I found out he had cheated and didn't tell me, maybe exposing me to STD's or something, I would have his testicles on toast. Marriage or partnership is supposed to be about 2 ppl caring about and for each other. If you have to lie, why get into the relation ship in the first place???

Answer 7

Dont lie about it...chances are your partner will find out about it. If that happens they will think that you are hiding talking to your ex for a reason....ie you still have feelings for them. My partner lied to me about a similar issue..when I found out I questioned his motive and even when he said 'there was nothing in it' I didnt believe him because if there was nothing in it, why did he hide it? It also made me question his integrity and wonder what else he has lied about....We are still together!!

Answer 8

Silence is an admition of guilt. Do not lie but do not honor the question. Its like the no win situation. " Have you quit beating your wife?"

Answer 9

If you lie. It hurts the other person.
If you lie and do not tell about it. It will effect your conscious, and the other person.

If it doesnt then you are just cold hearted, and really not human. Both of them are wrong regardless.

Answer 10

I think lying is worse than never admitting anything

Answer 11

Oh Jack, I think u know the answer w/out our advice. One is just as bad as the other. A relationship is never as full as it could be without pure honesty.