I understand some of you won't agree with what I did. I got pregnant around the same time I cheated and didn't want to take the chance so I got abortion in July. My own selfish decision that I regret every day.Looking in the mirror is hard to do.I have punished myself far worse then anyone here could possibly do with cruel words.Anyway, I have been trying to conceive with hubby since August. He thought I had a miscarriage he deserves this child, even if I dont. Anyway, we have been trying since August with no success. Let me explain. I got the abortion in the beginning of July. I didn't have sex for 2 weeks after my abortion. I went back to the clinic two weeks later for my checkup.. and the doctor that did the abortion checked everything & told me that everything was fine, I could swim, bathe in a tub, and intercourse but to use protection if I didn't want to conceive. So, after my first regular period after the abortion, I started TTC. I got my period in Sept and I just got it today.
2006-10-15 11:53:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
So, my question is... am I going to be not able to conceive anymore? I went to a doctor top-notch doctor. I took the Anti-Infection medication. I went back for the 2 week checkup. I check my ovulation days and do it on those days as well. This last time I was ovulating, Hubby & I had sex 8 times in 2 days..
Is it that I am trying to hard? Too much sex? Please help? Am I sterilized? :(
2006-10-15 11:55:06 · update #1
Your fine and you will get pregnant. Give yourself alittle time ( more than a month) and it will happen. Don't think your being punished I also have had an abortion and have had three children since. Try to deal w/ the feelings and any regrets you may have and then concentrate on getting pregnant. You did what you felt was your best option. don't beat yourself up. goodluck sweetie.
2006-10-15 12:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by GI 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It can take your body several cycles to build back enough lining to actually sustain another pregnancy. It sounds like you have had two cycles now, with this being the third, I don't think there is any reason why your body shouldn't be ready now.
You should not be worried about being sterile, since you did already conceive once. Just take a deep breath, relax, and let it happen. You asked if 8 times in two days was trying to hard, and acually, it kind of is. Sperm can live 3-5 days if the conditions are right, however, each time your husband ejaculates after the first time the amount of sperm decreases, so it's better to do it say 3 days before you expect to ovulate and then every other day (every day is okay, but a little much) until 3 days after you expected ovulation to occur.
Good luck, I hope it happens for you soon.
2006-10-15 12:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I too have had an abortion year and years ago. Since the BIG MISTAKE I have had two wonderful, perfectly healthy babies.If your husband is not sterile , you should have no more trouble getting pregnant than anyone else does. You just have to be patient and it will happen when it happens. Good Luck to you. You may also want to talk to someone about your feelings of guilt. I went through many years of depression and had to seek help. You don't want to be depressed and try to care for a child, that is not good for you or the child.
If your husband is not aware that the child may not have been his you really should tell him before you get pregnant. It is not fair to him to leave him the dark about it. If the truth comes out later, and if always does, he will not only be hurt and angry , he will be betrayed and stuck having to deal with you because of the new baby. Hadn't you rather have someone that chooses to be with you instead of feeling stuck and betrayed.Remember the Golden rule: Do unto others has you WOULD have them to do unto you. How would you feel if you were the guy and your partner done the same to you?I a not judging you, I have no right to and neither does anyone else but I just want the child you plan on bringing into the world to have two loving parents that have a chance of staying together. I hope that whatever you decide to do works out for you and your family.
2006-10-15 12:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by opinionated 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure about abortions, but I know that my sisters doctor told her after her miscarriage, that she should wait three months before trying again. I think abortion is wrong, but I'm not going to lay my beliefs on you, just give it some time. Your body has been through some trauma, and it might take time to conceive. It usually does. It took 7 months for my husband and I to conceive. Now we are pregnant with our third baby, we already have two little girls.
The reason for making mistakes is to learn from them, and it sounds like you have. Good luck, and be patient, it will happen.
Give it a few more months, maybe your hubby has problems, sounds like a soap opera, but it could be you got pregnant from the other guy, and your hubby has a hard time with making babies. Just a guess.
2006-10-15 12:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they perform an abortion, they force the cervix open very suddenly, the tissue / muscle can tear and in many cases will not close all the way. This causes the womb to be unable to hold a baby, from the start. I would give it time and not force the issue with yourself or hubby. You are also suffering from PASS, Post Abortion Stress Syndrome.
Call 1 800 848 5683 - this is a free national pregnancy hot line, they can hook you up with a Pregnancy Resource Center near you. All the Center's services are free and confidential. They have great counselors that will help you with PASS, help you with determining the days you can conceive during the month - the people are great - they are not harsh or judgmental about abortion, even though they are against it, if you have suffered through one, they are there to help you. Please call this number . Thanks & remember there is not a sin you can commit that is bigger or more powerful than the love Jesus has for you and His willingness to forgive you.
2006-10-15 12:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by AnaMay 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same situation you are. I split up with my hubby for a year, and got pregnant with a guys baby, there was complications, I to got an abortion(and yes i regret it as well) But I have learned that even though i did the wrong thing, I had to get over it, and move on. It was hard to forget, and you never will, but you have to move on. Just never do it again. I am not 25 weeks pregnant, and it is a tougher pregnancy but i am happy that i was forgiven. I am sure that you will be able to have a baby again, but don't push it. Just let it come when the time is right.
2006-10-15 12:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your body a break...you've only been trying since August. My hubby and I tried from May 2001 until the middle of this year when we finally just gave up on everything...and lo and behold, I ended up pregnant. You are probably just stressing over it too much...I know it's hard as hell to listen to someone that tells you to just "relax...it'll happen when it's suppose to" but trust me, that's when it happens...so just sit back take a deep breath and be sure and have sex during your fertile times.
Don't let TTC consume your life...it will only make you miserable. Also, most docs will tell you to have intercourse every other day instead of everyday or even instead of several times a day because the man's sperm production can take a bit...that gives them plenty of time to build up a nice big load of lil' swimmers for ya...
Good luck!
2006-10-15 13:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by "Urban" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be able to conceive still. If you jsut got your period today , then if you have a normal cycle...around 28 day cycle, then you should be ovulating on or around the 29th of October which would be the best time to try. Just have sex everyday a few days before and after that day. Anyways, It may take a few months of doing that, but dont give up it willhappen
2006-10-15 12:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a forum long ago about abortion, the session ended with the person declaring that he will believe what he wants to believe and let god sort it out. I used his version of the bible and using the context of the time and subject topic I refuted all his claims to abortion being murder. If you wish to assume abortion is murder, then you are your worse condemner. Life begins with circulation of the breath of life within the lungs the moment Adam came to life was when god breathed the breath of life through his nostrils. The bible never set or shewed another example of when the breath of life caused one to become a "living soul". There are other sacred scriptures that prove abortion is not murder. The umbilical cord provides nutrients for the developing fetus. The fetus is not an independent conscious entity. During Jesus' mission he never directly addressed the abortion issue. However, he did say do not hurt a child but they were playing nearby while he talked to his disciples.
2006-10-15 13:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by rc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard not to be judgmental...but your life is your life. After abortion, a small number of women are no longer able to conceive...If the doctor said you are ok, then you should be fine. just pinpoint ovulation by charting your temps and have sex during your fertile times. It can take a normal healthy couple up to a year sometimes to get pregnant, but are you sure your husband's sperm count is ok? If in 6 months you still haven't conceived, you may want to get checked and have hubby get a semen analysis. Good luck.
2006-10-15 12:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋