Ever since my sister got married in June, I've noticed a big personality change in her. She is constantly finding imperfections of mine with her husband, and puts me down for it. She makes me seem immature and irresponsible in front of her husband. She picks on private issues that should be dealt with separately between the two of us, exaggerates the problem, and tries to make me look bad in front of her husband. I am getting the feeling her personality change is largely in part due to her husband. He is a Brutus, strict, serious fellow who is pretty boring. I feel my sister and her husband are looking for things to find controversial to keep themselves entertained, but at her brothers expense? That's not fair. I've tried to talk with her and tell her how I feel, but she keeps at it, and instead of working to solve things that bother her, quietly, she gets her husband involved. I've decided not to hang out with her anymore. I'm sad 'cause she was my best friend.
Any suggestions?
2006-10-15 11:52:40 · 7 answers · asked by aceventuradude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's called immaturity, bonding with one person at the expense of an old bond. (Remember your playground days, putting down Sally to impress Sue?) She needs to grow the hell up. Stay away from her for now. She doesn't deserve your attention.
If he lets her get away with it? They are made for each other, and not in a good way. Too bad, but when (not if, when) they get divorced maybe you will be the bigger man and let her enjoy your company again.
2006-10-15 12:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. It ain't fun. Yes, she is being influenced by her husband, for sure, as I was, with one of my exes. It ain't right and should not continue. Confront her. Don't argue. Just ask her why...You've made the absolute right decision not to hang with her. For the time being, she is toxic to you and your well being. She'll get sad and miss YOU, too! During this time, she may realize it's her husband causing this problem, as I did. Be patient. It doesn't change your love for her. It's totally ok to be sad about it. Sad that someone can be that manipulative and influential in her life, now. Ick. Just send her bday cards and such, but don't hang.....she'll begin to wonder why.....then you can discuss it when she's ready for the truth.
2006-10-15 12:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she's not all that and neither is her hubby. Tell her strongly that you don't appreciate being the main course of conversation for her and her hubby. Tell her to stop immediately and that if she doesn't, you will have to stay away, until it stops. Let her know how hurt you will be if that happens.
If that all fails, take the I don't give a **** attitude and just let her carry on until she finds another victim.
2006-10-15 11:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by jewel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your sister and her husband have nothing better to do than to lo-rate you and your husband. People who have little or no control over their own lives often take out their frustrations on other people. It's a good thing that you aren't hanging out with her. Create your own circle of friends and leave her to her criticisms.
2006-10-15 11:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since she doesn't want to talk to you about any of it . stay away for awhile but first tell her how you feel again and tell her you don't like it and don't want contact with her until she can treat you and talk to you with respect. sister or not you don't need treated that way, i feel her husband is not all she thought him to be and she is not happy and doesn't know what to do so she chooses you to pick on.
2006-10-15 11:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pinch runner, no challenge. that is occurred till now the place somebody pulled a hamstring or in spite of and could no longer run the bases, the pinch runner takes up on the backside they left off and takes their place interior the line up.
2016-10-19 11:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her husband feels threatened by you because he thinks you are more succesful or smart than he is.
2006-10-15 11:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋