I am trying to take more time 'off' being social so I can spend more time on reading, studies, etc, save money. I am looking in essence to go "off the radar". any suggestons for me? I have tried before but always end up going out. i want to get healthier, stop drinking, etc. but it's hard when you go out on weekends and get carried away.
2006-10-15 11:50:34 · 6 answers · asked by walrus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Boy, is that ever hard, don't I know.
If friends try to talk you out of your personal agenda, hear them out then say, "wow, sounds like fun. Have a dance/drink for me, and I'll go with you another time". They won't stop trying to persuade you until your conduct makes it abundantly clear that their words are going in one ear and out the other.
Focus on the notion that you're going out as a reward for reaching goals (study habits, good grade, nurturing yourself), not just as a lifestyle of pleasure (which, after all, will burn you out).
Your friends aren't selfish on purpose, they simply aren't seeing how important your goals are for you. Indulge them by listening and responding (conversing), but stick to yer guns. You'll be so happy later (or sooner that you think), you'll see.
When I was earning my BA at university, I let myself enjoy a boyfriend too. I got the BA, but didn't maintain the high GPA I could've, if I'd just made the decision to put education first. Now, of course, it stings to know I could've given myself a better record to have in my history. Oh well.
2006-10-15 12:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest way to do this, is just stop answering your phone on the weekend. Seriously, maybe it is time to start hanging around your friends that don't drink,smoke,etc. Everybody has one or two friends that don't do anything that is bad for themselves morally or physically. Start hanging around them for a while, either they will rub off on you, or you will snap and be back in the club within a week. Learn how to say no, this also helps
2006-10-15 18:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely looove being alone. Just turn off your ringer and do what you wanna do. If people pop up at your house, don't answer the door and if you have to, go to a book store that's open late. You need ME time to stay focused and balanced.
2006-10-15 18:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a hard time explaining to friends what your doing I suggest that you just unplug the phone and don't answer the door when you want to be alone...or go to the libary to study...most people won't look for you there..
2006-10-15 18:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-discipline; you can still be social, just choose your battlegrounds carefully..everyone needs time out with social life, takes time to change behaviors, give yourself time to adjust-didn't get into it overnight; sounds like your part way there just to recognize the need to do this.....good luck
2006-10-15 18:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No easy way, you just have to learn to say "no" and not go out.
2006-10-15 18:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sean A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋