I took some important decisions in my life and did so because I personally thought they were all wise decisions - and I still think so! But I have a friend who keeps pointing out these decisions and criticizes them indirectly as if I (or whoever helped me make those decisions) are real idiots. Why does she do that? She wasnt like this before! So my question is - Can peoples personal situations change their behaviour towards others? (I know this friend has been having some financial problems since the past few years)
2006-10-15 11:30:22 · 14 answers · asked by dubaigirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes i think a financial situation can change someone attitudes towards others just like someones emotional situations can change their attitude. it probably happens because of stress, frustration, or depression. heck I'm sure they probably don't get a lot of sleep and that would make them cranky. so i guess yeah it would change them. just don't take it personally yourself. try and help them through their time of need.
2006-10-15 15:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by The Last Spartan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, like having a bad day at work and coming home and taking it out on your family. However, what if her hard financial times are merely wearing down her outer shell of politeness, and her REAL feelings are showing? Not that she can't disagree with you, but to keep persisting...time for a nice chat, eh? Just tell her you're wondering if she really believes what she's saying, or just tense and 'acting out' (as they say about little kids). Does she have confidence in your decision making? Has she had a chance to hear the whole story from you, thus be in a position to have an educated opinion? A friend will appreciate your directness, in the interest of keeping communication open 'twixt you.
2006-10-15 11:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is a real friend then they would acceot your decisions for what they are and not keep trying to throw them back in yur face.
Your question though, yes - personal situations can certainly affect a persn's behaviour to others but it is usually something that changes over a long period of time for long term problems or very suddenly for a new problem. My advice is, why dnt you talk to your friend and tel them that this is how you feel? It might be that your friend feels left out and the only way he/she can make themself feel better is t criticise the deciion you made with smeone else. Things arent always black and white and it is easy to second guess why smeone has doone something - but it is hust as easy to get it wrong. Speak to your friend, break down the barriers before they build up - it is already clear you are beginning to resent your friends behaviour slightly.
Good luck. x x x
2006-10-15 11:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by smileyscribe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, it can change behaviours.
I used to have a really good friend (I thought) that I had known for years and she got really ugly and nasty when I got engaged (she was a couple years older and all she ever wanted to do was get married, but had never been). Then, when I was pregnant, she went out of her way to be ugly about that, too. Haven't seen her in a very long time and I am thankful - it took too much energy and made me feel bad.
It seems to stem more from jealousy for some things, or feeling like you are going to lose touch with a friend (i.e. if they decided to go away to school or move to another state for work) or other insecurity issues.
When making important life decisions for yourself, always go with what is best for YOU and not what will necessarily make someone else happy.
2006-10-15 11:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u know ur decision are right and dont bother abt anyone who criticises it directly or indirectly becoz they may feel jealous of ur decision also and the people supporting u in this so leave them and the behaviour can be changed due to family tension also it will have great impact on the person who is facing the financial problems. so evaluate yourself and if u think is right then leave others becoz many say many things we cant hang to them and start feeling abt it . All the best.
2006-10-15 18:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can. It seems like your friend may feel threatened or jealous of you. It may be the stress of her financial problem that causes her to act this way toward you...or she may be struggling with decisions she has made within the past few years about her money or other things in her life. If I were you, I would not let her comments get under my skin and I would decrease the amount of time I spent with her.
2006-10-15 11:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that life experiences and personal situations can change peoples thoughts and behaviors towards others. I see it every single day. People handle life experiences very differently and respond to them differently. Life changes many people some for the good others for the bad.
2006-10-15 11:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by crash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always have to live your life for yourself. The only time that
is different is when you are married or have a child. Your friend
should always respect your chooses. She doesn't have to agree,
but except. You might have to just except the fact that she cant be a close friend any more.
2006-10-15 11:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically human beings show resistance to change. Thats quite normal b/c changes bring unknown. I think she acts as she does now, b/c she dislikes what has happened or maybe fears what the future will bring
2006-10-15 11:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by lateine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋