How the hell am I going to get over my ex =( Please write?

Question

On my ex's profile, he changed it all, and now apparently he's into a relationship.. yet he did the same thing as he did to his last ex before me.. bragged it in he was into another relationship.
I never knew it was to make someone jealous, until coming towards the ending of the relationship.
The last month, while we were engaged he grabbed my hand, and said.. we should get married. Then around 2 weeks of the split, he was with someone else.. then another, and then finally he said he broke it off cause it was too weird, and he missed me, and still loved me, etc.. then we were going to try to make thing's work, but then when he started to spend all kinds of hours out late, I questioned it, and finally he told me he was dating someone else.
After all this $hit.. I can explaiin why I kept going back, and I know it's wrong for me to consider it.. but it's a rough time now..I can't imagine seeing someone else, can you please give me some advice that helped you into a simlilar time?

*I can't explain why I kept going back.. typing error

Answer 1

men are scum. duh. but we're so damn cute. best thing to do is to just not think about it. do something that will take your mind off everything. maybe find a friend to confide in to talk about it. email me if you need someone to talk to, i am online quite often

Answer 2

Honey I've been there and it isn't easy getting over him. I can tell you all day long to forget him and move on, but fact of the matter is you can't do that right now. Try your hardest to have absolutely no contact with him. It's a difficult task, but it will help in the long run. You need some time to think. Once you can reflect on the relationship and see that he was only thinking of himself and not you, you will be able to get over him and move on with YOUR life. A relationship is 50/50 and obviously you were the one giving 100%.

I lived with an ex for 5 yrs before we decided to get married. We got married and a little over a year later he decided marriage wasn't for him. He was my best friend and it was hard as hell to end all ties, but it was in my best interest. Now I am happily single and living my own life. I'm not looking for Mr. Right. I'm looking for Mr. Qualified. You need to realize all that you have going for yourself and take pride in "you". Don't settle for less. You need to find a guy that will appreciate you and what you have to offer, not someone to take advantage of you and play stupid head games. It hurts and it isn't going to be easy, but keep your head up. There is someone out there who will give you the kind of relationship you want and deserve. It may not be around the corner, but you need to learn to be happy with you before you can be happy with someone else. I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

My first response would be to go out and screw (safely) some hot guy then when your done tell him to get the hell out. Build up your confidence in yourself. Second, time heals all wounds. Just take things one day at a time. I know it's hard to get this guy out of your mind and probably heart. Just take baby steps and over time, life will get easier and he will move slowly out of your mind and heart. Try to keep yourself busy and pre occupied.

One thing is sure in life and that is we cannot change other people. They are going to do, say and act the way they want and it makes sense to them, but not to others. Don't try and figure out what he did, just accept it as who he is and that's just what he does. I'm sure you would choose to not be with someone like that, but I know that after your involved, well it gets hard to accept people for who they really are. Figure out what you want from a man and wait until you get it. Look, there are so many men in this world, why put your energy into one man that isn't right for you. Be selective and wait for the fight one. It's like test driving a car or buying clothes. You need to look around try one on and if it's not the right fit, then you just go to the next.

Anyway, it gets better over time, it just takes a while before you feel it. You'll find one that's right for you.

Answer 4

i think the best way of getting over him is to spend some time on your self. think of your self instead, it has to be a lot more enjoyable. don't dwell on who did what , who was wrong, try working on realizing you can be happy with or without someone. no matter what you think it is never as bad or as good as you think. also realize you met one guy that was wrong for you , out of how many guys in the world? it is not easy to find the right match, but don't give up or you never will . believe in your self,don't look for a new mr. right, just look for a friend first to do things with so you get past a bad experience. then see what develops as you start being your self again . when in this situation a person gets down on themselves and lets mind and body go. they don't care about their appearance. instead , try to divert your energy to fighting this feeling by exercising or joining a gym, by eating healthy and maybe lose a couple of pounds . make sure you dress well and maybe dress up a little more than normal. you will be surprised at how a few compliments makes one feel so much better. maybe this will work or maybe it won't , but isn't it better devoting your energy on yourself instead of on thinking of him? at worst you will be leaner fiter stronger and dressed well. you will find that if you feel good about your self you won't feel such a need for dating just so your not alone. try to think that even alone with your self you are still in good company. good luck.

Answer 5

Getting over a Ex is not easy. Especially if you loved them.
But you have to give it time. And remember that time is all you have. You need to never forget the days thatyou had with your ex but the put them where they belong------> in the past. That is the whole meaning of "EX".
You need to go out with your friends and you need to have a good time. Hell you have to have a drink and loosen up.
You will find that specail on and there isa specail one out there for everyone. Angel will com eot you when the tiem is right. Most people dont get their soulmate right the first time. Just remember time heals all wounds.

Answer 6

People say the best way to get over a man is to start dating another one.

Answer 7

I do not know why you can't see your self with someone else, your ex did. and he did it over and over to you! Why would you want someone who does not want you? Think about that! I would drop him out of my thoughts, in a heart beat, if he did that to me! Forget about him, learn from this experience. The next friend, take it slow, so you can get to know him, and learn all about him.

Answer 8

I wish i knew.Sounds like a page out of my life.My best suggestion to you is stay around positive people and don't fill the void in your life by turning to drugs or alcohol.Between both of them and the depression,it will almost kill you!

Answer 9

The easiest way to say NO to this kind of jerk is to remember and visualize:

This same jerk sleeping around with other females while he is trying to get back in your home/bed/life -- and ....

He has a horrible sexually transmitted disease -- one that disfigures him right down to his soul ,,,

And that if you do NOT want to be 'recipient' of this disease -- then JUST SAY NO!

Answer 10

I think you should let him go and learn to get along with yourself. Try to remember your dreams and what you wanted to be when you grew up and try to reach a reachable goal and take one goal at a time.