Hi reacently my wife has been going around a friends house next door but ones! they have been having chats till early hours in the morning.
Last night she went other the the other womens house and she said before leaving that she wouldnt be late. I waited up till 12.30am still no sign, i eventually went to bed! I woke up at 4.50am to my suprise she wasnt next to me in bed! at this time our 16 month old baby was crying I decided to text my wife and ask her were she was! couple of minutes later she came through the bedroom door and dropped the bombshell she had shared a passionate kiss with another man! She says its because we dont connect anymore and the man paid her attention! she said she kissed him at about 2.00am but she never arrived home till I texted her at 4.50am! so what happened in between them hours she wont confined in me! she now tells me she loves me but how can I trust her she must not of thought what the consequeces would of been. has she commited ADULTRY?
2006-10-15 11:20:08 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, that's adultry. She broke the vows of marriage by not remaining faithful to you and yes, she's hiding something that happened in that 1+hour.
2006-10-15 11:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to put a name on what she did, but whatever the case she is wrong in a lot of aspects. First of all what is she doing out so late with a 16 month old at home? Shouldn't she be at home with her family and husband the way most wifes would be.? Seems to me that she just wasn't ready to grow up and be a mom or a wife for that matter. I would stop these late night visits with her friends she needs to be at home at a respectable hour with her family not out chit chatting with her people. And honestly maybe did somthing happen between those two hours you let her go visit with her friends, not guys you dont know nor approve of. I would defanenlty confront her about some things, put a stop to these visits ask why her friends never come to her place. And seek a marrage counselor. GOOD LUCK to you...
2006-10-15 11:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chris I feel for you guy but man , yes your work might be demanding but you have to find the hours for your family to keep that fire in your ladies eyes burning for you and you alone, if you give her the need and the time to look at others then chances are added to alcohol and flirting fools they will be enough to free her inhibitions and responsibilities to Chase this opportunist that is flattering her ,You have to decide wheather you can forgive and ,well we never forget but still if you two can put this incident behind you and move on . A lot of folks will say dump her but I know its not that easy if you really love the girl . talk to her sit down don't argue and discus it all Love family your child this drinking buddy and the guy that she shared the kiss with trust and above all faith in each other .
2006-10-15 12:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she had intentions of sex on her mind yes but if not it was just a friendly kiss. Now if they were touching while kissing thats a diffenent call game then yes it was Adultry. I would ask her to tell you the truth about what happened that night and if she dont give her the silent treatment for a few days then I bet she will come around.
2006-10-15 11:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my eyes yes she has. But in many eyes she hasnt.
I know that if it was me I would be getting help. If she feels like you two dont connect anymore the you need to see someone and get that connection back. Part of it may be that she is a new mom and is dealing with the idea of all the power that comes with being a mom.
Good luck and remember that if you really love someone then you can work through anything. But dont let her walk all over you.
2006-10-15 11:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by keelydbeltran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I consider it adultery but trust me she most likely won't. Mine didn't in a very similar situation. Even though she for years went on about how in her mind a kiss is more intimate than sex, until she allowed another man to kiss her. Your in for a long hard road either way you go and since she messed up now she is going to mistrust you even though you did nothing wrong. If you stay together that will only get worse. If you separate you'll have legal battles and the baby to consider. Good luck to you believe me you will need it.
2006-10-15 12:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by BLADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well., she could have. But I can not say for sure since only she knows. She did confide in you and told you he kissed her, so if nothing else she told half the truth. Now, it is going to be up to you to find out the rest that happened. I know for now on you will not trust her, and in that sense I cannot blame you, you have that right. I only can gather that something is wrong in that relationship. You have a small baby together, if you want to salvage your marriage, try to go to a marriage counselor.
I can feel your pain. God should give you the strength to deal with this. God bless.
2006-10-15 11:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just might want to look more into this. She might of just thought if she told you she only kissed a guy then you would think it was ok. It could of possibly went further. If she kissed him at 2:00am then she should of came home right afterwards and told you. Any kind of physical contact with another is adultry.
2006-10-15 13:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the first place would she be spending time next door instead of with u. something is allways lacking in a relationship if the other party has to go somewhere else to get the attention that they need from their partner. You are not tellin the whole story. Sit your wife down and explain or let her explain what this relationship is lacking
2006-10-15 11:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, yes - she has commited adultery. Now the question is: What do you want to do??
Is she willing to work on YOUR marriage for the marriage and not just for the child? Are you? Are both of you willing to take an honest look at how you have behaved in this relationship? And take responsibilities for those actions?
Do not seek to lay blame on any one moment/person - the two of you are in this together. Look forward from here for the solution - hopefully you can do this and stay in the marriage.
2006-10-15 11:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by crazybouthorses68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes it is adultry.
If she truly feels that you are neglecting her in some way she should have come to you with these feelings... not another man.
The question here is what do you want to do about it? Do you want to salvage your marriage? If so then you need to let her know that you won't tolerate her going next door anymore and that if she wants to keep her marriage she needs to start coming to you with her problems and not someone else.
Or you could take the baby and leave.
2006-10-15 11:25:29 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋