How can I get over my ex if I have to see him almost everyday. I have a baby with him and another one on the way but we are not together. Now he is seeing his son alot. When we see eachother in the park for him to see the baby, he doesnt include me in any activities with the baby. I feel kind of left out on top of the fact that I am broken hearted. He acts like he just does not care about me anymore and it has only been 1 week that we are broken up. He left the house, changed his address, and just calls me for the baby. Its so hard to see him and know that me and him are not together anymore. Can someone help in how to deal with this situation?
2006-10-15 11:18:12 · 10 answers · asked by Jersey Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I 100% disagree with "lucky". Do not involve the kid. Tell him what you are feeling, but not yet. You just broke up and he may need time. Let him have his time with his baby as well.
2006-10-15 11:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up challenging him with emotional violence and pressing his buttons to test him on your subconsciouss list of what your "Mr. Right" should be, there is no surer thing to give a man impotence!
Mans archtypical reality of women is built on mother and mum was almost always nice, he doesnt want to sit on the edge of the cave guarding the horizon and dealing with all the challenges, and then come in for some nurturing and get his buttons pressed from your anger that you have for all men as a gender that comes from you seeing little boys treated as first class citizens.
Ask him if this is true or not if you don't believe me! it's also a clue why men turn gay or have other affairs (passive emotional violence). Men being stupid in this area of relationship actually think they wont get it from the next woman when she also feels quite a safe he wont leave her. Trust me as a man, no man will put up with a womans crap no matter how pretty she is!..period.
and again ask any man if you think it's not true!
Romance is a a big confrontation for the mind that thrives on fault finding by the way! and when the "mind" has enough reasons to justify leaving the relationship it will! and until that occurs all you get is an intense amount of argument and drama.
I want you to love me but i dont want you to know me, because if you know me , you might not love me, "fear of rejection" so what then occures is the "mind gets attached to being right and manifests what it percieves to look better for its survival.
What if relationship wasn't supposed to be forever as religious dogma and cultural myth supposes? and once we got all the growth we could we moved on!
Love for me is sombody who calls me when they don't have too given were only here to pro-create and all the rest we make up to give life meaning!
Lets face it the sex is great until the lights come on and if theres no mental stimulation for men beyond shallow vanity they get extremely bored, and boredom doesnt exactly stimulate them to desire sex as well.
Hope this assists and you can get some value out of this and maybe your not ready to hear it as your to attached to being right about your way or the way you think love should "look".
True for me being a realist! and im open to transforming my opinion!
2006-10-15 18:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you7 g to the park with him? He is angry at you to justify leaving. Don't go with him. Have him pick up the kids and then drop him off. Leave when he leaves with the kid and go and get your feet done or a you hair done. Go to a movie. Start a new life for your self and don't give him that sick pleasure. He sounds like a narccisist (sp?) or however you spell it. Be gone, tell him, in your actions.
2006-10-15 18:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oohh poor girl. that its so hard. well you are doing good so far. pray alot! that would help. focus on your kids, i can tell you that. GOd will give you a guy that would see a beutiful person in you. get on with life. you are not the first girl that has been left by these guys with no sense of affection. continue life. take care of yourself and your baby.
He made the choice to leave you but not his kid. that is good. well, dont worry if he does not take you out...after all he left you. but be strong, that soon u will find a good man.
2006-10-15 18:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by chik_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he pays child support. Kids cost money, lots and lots of money.
2006-10-15 18:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, he obviously has someone new, so you should move beyond him and 1st, be strong for your babies. 2nd, find a GOOD man--that one is a JERK!
2006-10-15 18:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you were hurt
but thats ur fault
no sex without marred
2006-10-15 18:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respectfully, maybe a boyfriend.
2006-10-15 18:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sory pray hard,everything will be fine
2006-10-15 18:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just b like 'its my kid also so i gotta b part in it also'.
2006-10-15 18:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋