My friend preg. and is confused!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-15 11:04:39 · 19 answers · asked by britt 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My best friend had a baby when she was 15. She loves that baby very much and is thankful that she never terminated the pregnancy. She now has three beautiful kids, and is married, and just came down terminal. God gave her those kids when her body was suppost to have them. She is now 21 and can never have kids again. I would tell her to relax and not stress about it. That beautiful baby will change her life for the best. I am 24 and Have two beautiful girls and a boy on the way. I would never give them back. I thank god every day for them.
2006-10-15 11:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it wasn't really appropriate for a 16 year old to have sex but she did and now she is pregnant. I am not one of those people that shove their own personal opinion down the throat of others but since you asked I will say this, I unfortunately had an abortion about a year ago and it was the worst mistake of my life and I am about ten years older than she is, she is only 16, she has a lot of time left for regrets and if she is anything like me she will have have plenty. I'm an adult and ignorance is no excuse but I honestly did not know exactly how an abortion is preformed. A few months after I had it done I was looking around online and came across some pictures of aborted babies and it tore me up inside. I had already had regrets and guilt from the moment I left that office and after seeing that it made things even worse. I guess my point is, if she really wants to have an abortion I won't judge her and no one else should but make sure she educates herself first because the clinic won't. If I had seen those pictures before I had it done I would have NEVER gone through with it.
2006-10-15 18:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by girlfromflorida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question involved lots of other questions regarding the well being of a child and what the 16 years old girl believed in. If she believes that abortion is the only way, then be it. If she believes that by being pregnant at age 16 is OK, financially and emotionally, then keep the pregnancy. (This involves self-sacrifice, time, money and lots of love). She has to complete her high school while pregnant. May have to work to support herself and the baby. She need to ask herself that if she can be there for her child, can provide for her child (diaper, formula, food as the child grows up and education. But most of all, can she love her child unconditionally. If all of the questions are answer with a yes, I congratulate her and wish her good luck!
2006-10-15 18:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by TheOne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what SHE wants. My friend got pregant at 16 in high school, in a way it was good for her. It made her grow up and take responisibility. She joined the navy and is now supporting both of them. Does she want the child? Does the father want the child, and what do the parents think about it. Abortion is a permanent solution that she cannot go back from. She needs to think about this long and hard and get as much information as possible.
2006-10-15 18:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you confused if you’re not the one pregnant? Your "friend" should be the confused one. I don't care what people say. Abortions are wrong. If she is old enough to had sex and get pregnant then she is old enough to make a mature decision. Abortions are wrong.
As i told someone else:
It's called ADOPTION. Stop being so selfish. I have had 2 unexpected pregnancy's and I could not imagine being so selfish to have an abortion NO MATTER what the situations. In fact I am pregnant w/ an unexpected pregnancy's right now; and if a doctor told me today I had cancer and needed treatment I would say NOT TODAY, Not until my child is born! And If worst came to worst and I couldn't raise my child then I would put him/her up For adoption. It is sad how people have children/get pregnant and don't want them and people who want them can't have them. And just because it is Legal doesn't make it right! Abortion is just another excuse for people not taking responsibility for there own actions.
"Life begins at conception."
If you think abortion is right then you should visit these site:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
And if you still feel it is right then you are a cold hearted selfish waste of human being and need to get your head checked!
2006-10-15 18:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think 16 year olds should be having sex. I think people should wait till they are married to have sex with their spouse, but since she is pregnant, she should have the baby. If she can't support the child, put it up for adoption. NEVER under any circumstances should she have an abortion especially to use it as birth control. That's just wrong.
I don't think that 16 year olds having babies is appropriate, but it's too late to change that now. But NEVER have an abortion to use as birth control. Because if she does, she will live with the guilt that she killed a baby, and never gave that baby a chance to grow up, because she will wonder what the child would be like and what it looks like.
2006-10-15 18:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her decision. Personally I'd keep it or go for adoption. I just saw how they do abortions. They go in and suction the baby apart limb from limb literally! Then they crush the skull and suck out the pieces. After seeing that video (silenscream.com) I will never be the same again. It shows the baby (12 weeks) trying to get away from the suction thing, and it screaming, and the heart rate increase by almost double! It's her choice to do what she wants, but please have her look into abortion before deciding to go with it.
2006-10-15 18:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she should keep the baby! she made the decision to have sex she needs to deal with the consequences! Seriously its not the baby's fault. There are plenty of young mothers out there that do it every day! If she doesn't want to keep the baby then she should give it up for adoption..not have an abortion! There are plenty of couples out there that would love to adopt her baby!
2006-10-15 18:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should be counselled as this is a very serious time in her life. Personally I don't agree with abortion but many people do.
Either way could affect her the rest of her life. She needs help and support.
2006-10-15 18:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Zoey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she wasn't taking the correct steps to avoid becoming pregnant, then she thinks it is appropriate to have a baby and should keep it!
2006-10-15 18:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by bezsenný 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋