If a man who considers himself straight slips up just once and has sex with a guy, everyone can't wait to label him gay, but if a guy who considers himself gay and has sex with a female (and I know alot of 'gay' guys who have done this even AFTER they have come out) then he is still considered gay. Is it just me or is this a double standard? I think any guy or girl who has had sex with people of the same and opposite sex would be considered bisexual. That only seems logical. It also seems like it's so easy for society to label women as bi but not men. I think this is because men rule the media and they find women who are bisexual to be a fantasy and we all know men's fantasies are all that matters...... I also think alot of women lie about being bisexual just to get more attention from men. Sad, isn't it?
2006-10-15 11:00:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I hear you. I think that a lot of people just feel the need to label themselves and everyone else in order to achieve some sort of self-validation/understanding. It's really sad. I myself believe that everyone falls somewhere on the Kinsey Scale, therefore most people just fall under the umbrella term "bisexual" or at least have that potential. People really need to get over themselves.
2006-10-15 11:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Complex question. I think that Dan Savage has written a lot about this in his column SavageLove. My response would take into account the fact that being gay (whether male or female) is still a marginal subject position in many societies and cultures. Therefore, it is a political as well as sexual identity. A gay man or woman could have heterosexual sex but want to retain their identity in order to maintain his/her connections in the gay community. Indeed, many lesbians in the past were ostracised for straying, and the idea of bisexuality has caused a lot of debates in the gay community, as well as straight. These terms all only came into being a hundred years ago, and do not quite match the ways in which people lived their sexualities in the past or in other cultures - who knows how they will change in the next 100 years? I think you are right, thought, that heterosexual male fantasy does power a lot of media, and that change will have to come - and does already come - as resistance to this.
2006-10-15 18:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't label people as this or that. Labels are so restrictive. I figure people are free to do what makes them happy, and what makes them feel good. Why shove everyone into a neat little box? I like sex with certain men...I like sex with certain women... It's more about the person that attracts me, not their equipment. I'm not gay, straight or bisexual. In my opinion, I'm just...sexual. *shrug*
2006-10-15 18:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a double standard. Part of the problem is that male homosexuality is less accepted in our society. Therefore, people are quick to separate themselves from others who have any homosexuality associated with them.
And yes, it's sad to lie about your sexuality in order to attract someone else. It's a really pathetic attempt to connect with someone who's probably not worth connectiong with.
2006-10-15 18:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by tomstrong83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all labels are bad, and about the sexual part - just depends on my mood and whos buying the beer.
2006-10-15 18:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bisexuals have been responsible for some cases of AIDS being transmitted to women.....
2006-10-15 18:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by LanceMiller77 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
awful
2006-10-15 18:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by mad alan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋