This question is for married men! I always hear advices from women, but I really wanna know what men think!
What is the best thing your wife can do to bring the romance back to your lives? Red roses on the bed, candles, phone call at your office to tell you she love you..? Tell me what you imagine will be the best?
2006-10-15 10:45:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dr. Lifemaker, your answer is so funny and I know it is realistic! Thanks for the advice!
2006-10-15 12:01:45 · update #1
Quite wearing the old grey sweatpants and t-shirt everyday and put on something sexy once in awhile.
Sorry, thats my own personal hell. Seriously, sexy outfits are a nice surprise.
2006-10-15 10:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by lopie6 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep in good shape for starters. Men are visual and like to look at attractive women, so be his focal point. Work on being a better person and give him his space and two things will happen. First, you will enhance who you are as a person. Secondly, you'll allow him to pursue you. Men like to hunt so give him a challenge. Also, blow jobs go along way for a man. Finally, just be his best friend and don't judge him. Who wants to be married to a nag. I think this advise can go both ways for men and women.
2006-10-15 18:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kind of a subjective situation. What is romantic to one person may not be romantic for another person.
It doesn't necessarily have to be anything expensive or elaborate. Sometimes it's just a matter of leaving a small note or calling him at work to let him know you're thinking about him. Just letting him know that you care and that he actually matters to you probably would mean more than anything. It truly is the small gestures that make the biggest difference.
2006-10-15 17:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I will tell you. Bills,work, and everyday stress can wear down a man. Viagra 25mg. will over rule all lifes problems,it causes a man to produce also more hormones making do things in bed that a teenager would do.
Been taking it 3 years, changed our marriage for the better.
2006-10-15 17:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give up challenging him with emotional violence and pressing his buttons to test him on your subconsciouss list of what your "Mr. Right" should be, there is no surer thing to give a man impotence!
Mans archtypical reality of women is built on mother and mum was almost always nice, he doesnt want to sit on the edge of the cave guarding the horizon and dealing with all the challenges, and then come in for some nurturing and get his buttons pressed from your anger that you have for all men as a gender that comes from you seeing little boys treated as first class citizens.
Ask him if this is true or not if you don't believe me! it's also a clue why men turn gay or have other affairs (passive emotional violence). Men being stupid in this area of relationship actually think they wont get it from the next woman when she also feels quite a safe he wont leave her. Trust me as a man, no man will put up with a womans crap no matter how pretty she is!..period.
and again ask any man if you think it's not true!
Romance is a a big confrontation for the mind that thrives on fault finding by the way! and when the "mind" has enough reasons to justify leaving the relationship it will! and until that occurs all you get is an intense amount of argument and drama.
I want you to love me but i dont want you to know me, because if you know me , you might not love me, "fear of rejection" so what then occures is the "mind gets attached to being right and manifests what it percieves to look better for its survival.
What if relationship wasn't supposed to be forever as religious dogma and cultural myth supposes? and once we got all the growth we could we moved on!
Love for me is sombody who calls me when they don't have too given were only here to pro-create and all the rest we make up to give life meaning!
Lets face it the sex is great until the lights come on and if theres no mental stimulation for men beyond shallow vanity they get extremely bored, and boredom doesnt exactly stimulate them to desire sex as well.
Hope this assists and you can get some value out of this and maybe your not ready to hear it as your to attached to being right about your way or the way you think love should "look".
True for me being a realist! and im open to transforming my opinion!
2006-10-15 17:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
All Im going to say, is that it takes two. Instead of asking, what can your wife do to bring back the romance? You should be asking, What can WE do to bring back the romance??
2006-10-15 18:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sandi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1- sex has to be on the top agenda - show more interest
2- give him a bj every once in a while .
3- tell him u want him to go down on u.
its all about the sex....
2006-10-15 18:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give mine head wherever whenever and for how long he says, Anal the same and outdoor stuff. I do what he wants ANYTIME ANYPLACE ANTWHERE a regular Martini Girls and he NEVER strays xx
2006-10-15 17:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Good dinner and a massage... No flowers (waste of money). No lingerie just be naked and ready to go after dinner.
2006-10-15 17:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of spontaneous sex and bjs. Lots of ego stroking and cooking.
2006-10-15 18:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋