I just found out that I'm pregnant. The father is a guy that I work with. He just moved here a couple of months ago and we only slept together one time. He's completely avoiding me now and says he doesn't want anything to do with it. I can handle having a baby on my own but i'm really freaking out because I have to see him everyday at work. I asked him if he would find a different job (we wait tables and he can do that anywhere) since he is choosing to ignore this and I don't need the stress of being around him. That sounds wrong of me to ask that of him but I don't know what to do and this is really hurting me. Any advice would help.
2006-10-15 10:39:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am SO! Sorry that you have this kind of a situation. I would keep my job and show him that you are a bigger person than he. He won't stay there very long. So, you have to reach way down and pull up all the courage you can muster. And by golly, just be the best and sweetest that you are. And he will feel SO bad. You have to act like you don't care. But be careful. God Bless you. Always.
2006-10-15 10:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by grams40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Bad news! Myself, I'm against abortion. Under these circumstances I would understand if you terminated - he's an awful choice for a dad, isn't he! And if you carry to term, he'll have rights - you don't want that, do you? Absolutely everything in your life will change if you go through with this pregnancy, so you will need: supporting family/friends; money; a spine of steel. Kids are forever. If you're young and don't want an abortion, carry the little person to term and put it up for adoption. But be sure you're going to give up that child, because you need to be prepared big-time if you are going to try to raise it yourself. If you're going to stay pregnant, start eating and resting properly now - no booze, no cigs, no drugs of any kind. Then when you give up the baby you will at least know you did your best for her/him, that you did all you could.
2006-10-15 10:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to have this baby have it. But you have to relize that there won't be a father figure around. I also hope that you have enough family support to get you throught this. All I can say he is a dam right jerk and I hope carma gets him when he least expects it.
I would suggest that you look for another job and get out of there straight away. Also explain to him if you want to have the baby that you are going to, and if he wants to see it, well he can if he wants, and tell him he will have to pay child support!
2006-10-15 10:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by carlyriddell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or just deal with the fact that he's there, and flaunt your big beautiful pregnant belly in his face. If you've told just one person that he is the father it will eventually get around the entire restaraunt and he will probably be so embarrassed and shamed that he'll quit anyway, and likely get a "talking to" from the boss about his irresponsible behavior...but you might get a similar speech yourself.
2006-10-15 10:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just either u get a new job or maybe if u can talk to ur boss and have him/her fire him if its possible.
but seeing as i don't see that happening confront him in a room that u can lock and say look i would like u in the kids life if thats what u want or say that u would really like him to change locations but try not to get angry when u tell him how u feel.
good luck with the baby.
turst me things will get better.
2006-10-15 10:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by guesswhoohme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wont get another job maybe you could. Contact his family that way the baby will have something to do with its dads family and they might help you. You would be suprised the help a family would give you.
Why didnt you use protection?
2006-10-15 10:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first thing dont let him hurt you if he dose not want the kid than forget him you can raise the kid on your own second dont worry about him working with you just go about your buisness and act like you dont even know him just think of it this way when the kid is grown up he/she will have you to thankbut also rember it is very hard to rais a baby and it will be difficult but it witt het eaiser good luck to ya!
2006-10-15 10:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by sk8erhjk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go after him for child support. Let the state make his life hell, all you need to do is start an affidavit of paternity, or get state medical. he'll end up paying for it when the test resaults come back positive.
2006-10-15 10:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by D J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DANG! I am so sorry that you are in this situation, I think you need to put him on child support. Try to talk to him and discuss care and support for the child. If you want him in the child's life and he agrees fine, but if he doesn't want no part in it, that's happiness he's going to miss out on.
2006-10-15 10:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by iM BL0WiNG UP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possiable you can find another job?? He is just a dead beat and used you for sex, so either you will have to deal with that issue and cont. to work there acting like he is not there or you will have to find a new job...
2006-10-15 10:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋