Is anyone REALLY freaked out by death, not just a little, but a lot. I worry about it everyday, especially at night when I'm alone in the dark. I'm scared of stupid things like mould because it reminds me of decompostion. I'm really afraid of water and drowning too. I can't look at old photos of people from years ago without feeling scared that they lived so long ago and they're dead now. I wory about losing people I love and I can't watch any programmes that involve a lot of death. Do you think I need to see a therapist?
2006-10-15 10:37:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Death is the natural culminating point of a life. You will find that as you grow older, your fear of death dissipates. Having been close to dying on two occasions (heart probs), I also gained a sense of peace about dying. Now, at 59 I'm ready whenever it comes - today, next year, of a long time from now.
Your fears are natural for a young person whose life experiences are limited. No shrink needed here, just time to mature and grow.
2006-10-15 10:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Curmudgeon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Mam passed away when I was 10 years old, which left me feeling just how you are now. I couldn't even bare to go to Evening Service in Church, but was fine at Morning Service.
I now realise that there is no point worrying about the inevitable, but to make the most of life.
I assume you are still at school. If so, could you not have a chat with your favourite Teacher, or a Family Member.
If my presumption is incorrect, then a chat with a Religious Leader, your Doctor, or a close Friend might help. A problem shared is (often) a problem solved.
I am no longer afraid of death, as I believe that our soul will just pass to another room close by.
I do wish you well and hope that you are able to start relaxing and enjoy your life to the full.
God bless.
2006-10-15 10:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be...but I lost my husband when I was very young (32)...he drowned, so it was sudden...after that I was sooooo afraid of water! We had been avid canoists, and I've not been in a canoe since! Then, I found out my mom had lymphoma!!! I freeked!! I was SURE we'd beat it, and she had chemo and radiation and everything, to no avail. I lost her a little over a year ago and now I just hope that I can see them when I get to heaven and I try to have a good heart and live the best I can so that will happen! Death is a fact of life, and it's hard when someone you love dies, but you can't spend your life afraid to live!! I suggest you talk to your pastor or rabbi, or some other clergy....perhaps that would ease your mind...in the meantime, don't be scared...be careful, yes, and even wary of things that are dangerous or harmful....but continue to live your life and enjoy the time you've been blessed with!
2006-10-15 10:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also afraid of death, but not nearly to this extend. You should see a therapist; you seem to have developed a phobia. Have you lost anyone very close recently, or had a friend lose someone close to them? Perhaps something brought this on. At any rate, you should see a professional about this before your fear takes more control of your life. You can waste your life fearing the end of it.
2006-10-15 10:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I think about it all the time too. It may be helpful to see a therapist. I mean i'm only 24 and all i can think about sometimes is that i dont have enough time to get all the things that i want to get done in life done. Especially at night, when i'm trying to fall asleep.
I mean i'm working to be a therapist right now, and by reading the in depth question, I would seriously consider it. It appears that this is causing impairment in your day to day functioning, that should be your cue to see a therapist. They will help teach you ways to cope. If money is tight, try the things first before you go and see if they help:
1. thought journal
2. deep breathing when you have the thoughts. Breathe in 3 counts, hold 3 counts, release 3 counts. do this 3 times.
3. telling yourself in your head or outloud to "STOP" and try to direct your thoughts to other matter. if you get back say stop again. Sometimes this may even mean counting floor tiles. (this one works well for me)
2006-10-15 19:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by fireeyedmaiden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should. just remember that everyone dies. its part of a natural cycle that all of us as human beings must fallow. dont live your life fearing death. just live your life. when you look back at people you should remember that they lived a great life. dont dread death because when it does come you'll be sorry you didn't just live while you were alive. a therapist can help you deal with this more, but just remember that it's going to come- there isnt any stopping it so just live your life while you can.
2006-10-15 11:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend.....I know it's easy to say but don't let these fears control your life. You have these concerns because you don't know God the way that you should. Pick up a New Testament Bible and read. Get to know the God that gives a peace that passes all understanding and your fears will go away. You will get to know that God is bigger than all of your fears. Let me know if I can help.
2006-10-15 18:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live like you were dying, just like the song!
Take life day by day for what its worth and stop planning so much for the future. Plan enough so that you can enjoy life later but live NOW. You have to live for whats now. Can't take your money with you once you croak.
2006-10-15 10:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by laserguy1665 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not scared of death, but scared of growing old.
The only way to get out of those thoughts is by doing something that you enjoy. Talking to someone about it is just going to make it continue.
2006-10-15 11:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by almostdead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. I feel you. People try telling me im scared of death because I dont believe in god. Sure. Any sort of violence, blood, gore, dying (real or in a movie) I have developed some sort of phobia of and I cant quite explain it.
2006-10-15 12:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by shadyivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋