I have a friend, me and her have always been close and told each other everything, we used to talk constantly, even if it was unimportant. She lives in another city, and we have always keep close contact through MSN, but meet up every so often. we used to text each other multiple times a day, talk alot in the evening and send one another gifts and the like every now and then.
Lately it seems as though she does not show an interest, I have asked her and she says she does. But when we talk now the convosation 'dies' quickly within minutes, and ussualy results in me scraping to try find anything to talk to her about.
I know she has become good friends with another couple, they live closer and they visit them once a week or so and seems as if they get on very well, maybe as well as we used to.
What should i do to try regain her interest, or isit worth not doing anything at all and letting her come to me? I miss the way we acted to one another. I feel empty.
Can any one help?
2006-10-15 10:37:05 · 10 answers · asked by Paul R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She has obviously found something or someone else to occupy her time. It doesn't mean she doesn't care about you, she just has other things to do, other people to talk to. I would just either accept the fact that the relationship you described was not going to last forever the way it was and just talk to her once in a while, or just let her go & find another friend to text several times a day & talk to on MSN.
2006-10-15 10:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't lost her, but generally proximity is a vital thing in really close friendship relationships. It helps to have friends that are close to you and are right there for you if you need them. Talking over the phone and online is OK but no subsitution for being there. I've had to move a lot of times and I've learned this from experience.
The first thing to do is, talk to her about your feelings. Don't just guess that you're moving farther away as friends. Maybe she still feels really close to you. Make sure to do it over the phone, and not online. If she feels distant from your in your friendship, maybe you need to let her go a little bit. Don't let the friendship go, but focus more on building new relationships with the people around you, and let her do the same as well. Just make sure she knows that she's still really important to you, and keep up communication between you two.
2006-10-15 17:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when things change and you lose a friend. Maybe she just needs some time to explore this new friendship. Because you live so far away from each other that makes it difficult to sustain the deep level of friendship you once had. This doesn't mean you can't still be friends, but maybe it's time for you to start making more new friends that live closer to you.
2006-10-15 17:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by LaLa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are just drifting apart. It's a part of growing up and living your own life. Know that you two will always been friends, but you just might not be as close as you once was. It happens and the feelings do suck. I'm sorry, but I'm sure you'll move on soon enough.
2006-10-15 17:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by yblur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to talk to her about this... not just by scraping up something to say. You need to have a heart to heart with her. if you don't than things could proberly not save the relationship. You might not need to try to get her intrest back... sometimes people need some space. but you should talk to her.
2006-10-15 17:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by tribenallchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... distance is a hard thing to get through... if yu really care about yur relationship with her then keep tring.. but if she really doesnt then nothing will help.. one thing 2 test is try 2 "dissaper" 4 a while if she is like where have yu been i missed yu n stuff then its not the end yet :)
2006-10-15 17:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by lidiyaloves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you are feeling. Tell her that she is changing, or not used to be like the way it used to be. If it has been like this then all of a suddenly she changes, see what's wrong.
2006-10-15 17:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.. let her womnder if you miss her for a while.. if you push yourself on her... there is no challenge.. women like a little challenge
2006-10-15 17:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Hillary Dillary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give so much attention to her!!take one girl cousine out(she doesnt know that is ur cousine) and that she would make her jealouse!!also if u dont want to do that u may tell her by yourself that u met a beautiful girl with great character!!that will make her bring her old behaviour!!
2006-10-15 17:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Santa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell her exactly what u wrote?
2006-10-15 17:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋