Help, I'm going crazy?

Question

long story short. I found out my husband have known this girl since she was 16 she is now 18. He said he know her from the neighborhood his cousin live, o;k I really trusted my husband, and I thought o:k why do she have your cell #.Then at that point I went blank. There is no way my husband could be having affiar with this person, so I decided to call her, she swear he was just someone to talk to, he is friend, I ask if they ever had sex she said no. it wasn't like that. he swear he wasn't having sex with her, he called talking to her as just something to do. now by her being so young i decide to call her mother, i told her i needed her help to find out if my husband was sexually involved with her daughter.She called on 3wy she admitted to knowing him, but said he never tried her like that. and that she knew he lived with his old lady, she said. He don't consider knowing her, and talking to her cheating,he said it was only 3min conv. about B.S. I saw no signs. What do I do. Going Craz

Answer 1

don't go crazy ... call "the Cheaters" ... then file 4 divorce - who needs that looser ...

Answer 2

Sure sounds like you have done about all you can do. Now I guess you need to decide how you feel about a hubby who is hooking up with teen girls and possibley with other women. If he thinks having a two-year relationship with someone else is just fine, I would be VERY worried about what else he thinks is fine. He sounds less than committed and immature. It sure doesn't sound like he is planning to stay faithful--regardless whether or not he "just talked" with the teen or had sex. A TWO YEAR relationship is insane -- You're not. What married man goes handing out his cell number to other women and carrying on "friendships"?!Very weird.

By the way, if he says "being friends" with females is not cheating, then I am sure he has no problem with you having young male friends with who you hang with and talk on the phone with, right? He would have no problem with that, right?
Give me a break. I don't know anyone anywhere that is committed to their relationship that would think that was okay behavior, period.

I don't know anything about you or your husband such as your ages, length of time married, past behaviors, etc. so it is hard to say what is going on exactly, but to answer your question: NO YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. You have a right to be nervous and a right to be mad. You have a right to wonder if this man is worth waiting around for while he decides whether to grow up or not.

Hubby is out of line and even MORE out of line for defending his stupid behavior. I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him and would be very cautious of what I invested in this relationship while deciding if it is one worth staying in. Sorry.

Answer 3

I'm sorry that you're going through this kind of situation but it's definitely strange for a grown man to be talking to a 16 year and for 2 years... it's very strange... it is definitely questionable behavior and your husband shouldnt do that...I think there's more to their relationship then just friendship to last for 2 years just talking BS for 3 minutes at a time... i don't think so... if you feel like you can't trust him anymore and that hes not what he seems then maybe you should end the relationship...He obviously didn't trust you to tell you about this girl so he's been keeping secrets from you and everything so unless you can live with all that and be happy then you shouldn't be with him.

Answer 4

Its not about whether he did something wrong. Its about the fact that he did something that ALLOWED for the POTENTIAL of the APPEARANCE of IMPROPRIETY.... no married guy calls a single female... it just AINT KOSHER... would it be okay for YOU to have abunch of young hot guys calling you JUST AS A FRIEND? HECK NO it wouldnt... keep in mind also that PEOPLE LIE.... may i remind you of OJ SIMPSON and BILL CLINTON... he told a grand jury that he DID NOT HAVE SEX WITH THAT WOMAN (and he did) NOw maybe your hub didnt do anything... but keep an eye on his every freaking move and if he gets caught in a lie or gets more phone calls he cant explain.. you get the heck outta there fast before he gives you an dSTD you cant get rid of with a SHOT.... some folks are just no damn good, you cant trust em you cant love em.... dont be stupid... many women are.... you are right to be leary. If my husband did that... he would be hearing from my divorce attorney

Answer 5

You don't say how old your husband is....but I would say hes not 18?

So the question is?

She is 18...........hes a married man?
Your his wife?

You can't work it out?. Try really really Hard.
Sorry, but no married man just talks to ANY 18 year old girl?

No matter what they say? it is Impossible.
He should only be talking to you!

Your the wife....Don't go into shock, just do something about it.

I would tell him, you know....and wait for the fireworks.

How very sad for you, but it has to be delt with.
all the best.

Answer 6

why would your husband talk to such a young girl? What could he possibly have in common w/ her? isnt her mother bothered that a full-grown man contacts her teenager? I wouldnt be comfortable w/ that, either.

Answer 7

Give him the benefit of the doubt but tell this little girl to find some friends her own age and gender to talk to and to leave your husband alone.

Answer 8

If you saw no sign what can you do? I would say, you tell him that its either her being his friend or you being his girlfriend. But thats just what I would do, I wouldn't have my man talking to some other girl, no matter what age she is.

Answer 9

I didn't bother eading any of that long novel you just typed, but my answer is that Yes, he is cheating on you! That's the way men are. you might want to get used to it.

Answer 10

is that you lisa?.......well if it isnt then i know a lady who babysits my little sister isabella and she had to undergo the same bad thing you did, if you are lisa, then call my mom heather's house!