i've been seperated from my husband for nearly 2 yrs. Our divorce will be final Dec 8, 2006. I have been with my bf for 6 mnths and we plan to marry in Feb 2007. Do you think that this is wrong?? My sister thinks that we should wait longer and is barely speaking to me b/c of it.
2006-10-15 10:24:06 · 27 answers · asked by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MY PARENTS ARE ALL FOR IT SINCE HE'S MILITARY AND HAS BEEN TAKING GOOD CARE OF ME AND MY 3 YR OLD DAUGHTER.
2006-10-15 11:03:36 · update #1
youve been seperated for 2 years.....youve moved on....good for you.....its not wrong to be with someone else and commit to another marriage providing you are happy and with the guy you plan to wed for the right reasons.....good luck...your sister has no right to tell you what to do or be upset with you....its your life
2006-10-15 10:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!!! You will have been with your new bf for a "whole" 10 months when you plan to get married again in Feb....Your sister thinks you should wait......I do not find fault in your sister's concern. I think she is just trying to save you from another divorce in the future. Take your time, live together if you aren't already and if you are, what difference will that piece of paper make?
2006-10-15 10:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Rickard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it your sisters life or yours?
I personally don't see anything wrong with it. You were seperated from your husband well over a year before you started a relationship with your current bf. It's not like you were cheating on your husband.
However....6 months really isn't long enough to know someone well enough to get married if your marriage taught you anything you should have learned that.
Maybe your sister is just concerned that you are rushing things with this new man and doesn't want to see you get hurt.
2006-10-15 10:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally speaking? I wouldn't, married is married. If I were to seek a divorce I would wait until it was final out of respect for my vows. But that's just me and you can do what is right for you.
I think it would be good for you to take a step back from this new relationship and figure out why the previous one didn't work. Spend some time alone, figure out what you need in marriage and what you can offer in a marriage. I would wait and be patient. You don't want to be in divorce court 2 years from the next marriage.
2006-10-15 10:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell your sister you'll miss her at the wedding...
She can either deal with the fact you're moving on or she can miss out on your wedding... You determine when it is time to move on with your life.
Now, if you were fooling around on your husband and leaving him for this guy. I understand why. It would appear to her and just about anyone else that you needed to show him a little more dignity and respect by giving a little time for some healing.
If he was the one doing the mattress mambo with some other chick and therefore causing the seperation/divorce... Good for you moving on with your life.
2006-10-15 10:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In respect to your family values i think so. Family is the most important thing. But if you have been seperated from you husband that long i don't think they should be throwing that big of a fit. It might possibly be your bf thats the problem. I would sit down and talk with your sister about it.
2006-10-15 10:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Tda11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a divorce 11 Dec, and got married on 14 Feb. Do what you want, and be happy. Congrats. ~~~
2006-10-15 10:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for what? If you sister wants to wait, tell her there is a bus stop down the road to go wait at. This is not a funeral, it is a wedding..start the planning and go for it. You sister is a little dense around the edges, isn't she...perhaps she has the hots for your ex????? Don't discount the idea...or the hots for your love!
2006-10-15 10:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kim. ONLY YOU know if its 2 soon. You know whats going on more than your Sister does! After 6 months , I would say , this is NOT a rebound-thing. Life is short , get living!
2006-10-15 10:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by groggro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no....you were seperated from your husband...it's not your fault that the legal system takes forever. If you love someone you should be with them...and your sister should be happy that you've found someone after being through such a rough time.
2006-10-15 10:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by bluearia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋