2006-10-15 10:22:36 · 34 answers · asked by wkd_2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-15 10:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do with a married man apart from have an affair. If you do persue a affair with him bear in mind the probability of him leaving his wife is very slim and even if he does leave his wife what goes around always comes back around therefore the probability of him cheating on you would be very high. Have some morals and self respect, he has told you he is married. If anything were to happen between the two of you he will have no respect for you. Its your life so its up to you to decide what happens, just remember there are always consequences to pay in situations like these. Think about how his wife would feel when she finds out, how would you feel if you were here?
2006-10-15 10:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it is not a crush? But either way you can not do anything about it to split up this family. It can be really hard when you have feelings for someone who is out of reach, but only missery and heartache and lots of peoples lives will be ruined if you pursued this. I know it will be very tough but try and put him out of your mind by going out to different places if he is there and mix with other people that are not connected to him or his family. You will eventually meet your mr right soon. Just think if he left his wife for you, so you will be happy knowing you have the love of your life and that he'll be with you forever and never leave you???? That will be what his wife was thinking if that were to happen.
If he could leave his wife then marriage vows meant nothing to him. Now how could you be happy in life with someone like that?
Please don't ruin your life and stay well clear. Your perfect partner is just around the corner if you wait.
Good Luck
2006-10-15 10:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by daka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will do this to you with another woman someday. Men who start a relationship with a woman while married or currently in a relationship are not mature or stable. They cannot function in life by themselves and this is a problem. He is looking for the best deal and the best woman to serve his needs. His concern is not ever going to be for you because his only concern is himself. The attention and love you think he is giving you is just a set up and the honeymoon will quickly end once he has you trained. You are emotional and won't even realize how well he has you trained to serve him. Once you wakeup to his game he will move on by finding another woman because this type of man is always looking for the best deal and you are only a sale item on sale now. Stop being stupid and get your emotions in check and end this right now. Your future and happiness won't exist with a loser like him. Yes he is a loser!
2006-10-15 10:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhh bad situation honey. listen the best thing u can do is just avoid him and walk away cos it will get a whole lot worse and then u will be in a right sticky situation. try and find someine who is not married and who u really fall for and you should be fine. whatever you do do not have an affair with him....it could brake a lot of hearts! just think if a man can have an affair with u then he will boun to cheat on u in the future (thats if he leaves his wife or somethig) good luck on this and have the courage to say no. ;)
2006-10-15 10:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by honey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. It is difficult and it is not as easy as just walking away from him and trying to forget about him. Without knowing anything about your circumstances - what you should do depends on how long you have been involved with him, his feelings for you, the nature of his relationship with his wife and whether there are any children involved.
What you should never do is ask him to leave his wife and family for you. This is his choice, and if he does love you he will leave.
In my situation, I have been with him for 3 years. During that time he has been separated from his wife (but not divorced). They live in separate but adjacent households, so she is very much a part of his life. This marriage is his second marriage and he is afraid of another failure with me. But he is probably more afraid of his wife turning his children against him and losing any hope of a relationship with them.
As much as you may just want to be with him, you need to understand that there are so many things that he has to think about and he is inevitably going to have a lot of baggage if he is facing the dissolution of a major relationship (in my case, he has had two failed marriages!). If he has kids, and he wants (like he should!) to continue his relationship with them, you need to accept that his (ex) wife will always be a part of his life and this will inevitably lead to tension if she did not want the split. You will be blamed for the failure of their marriage, even if it wasn't working before you two met.
If you want to be with him, you need to be aware of everything you will be facing and you have to decide whether you love him enough to whether the storm that is ahead of you. This is the kind of situation where no one gets through without being hurt in someway. His wife will be hurt, he will get hurt, and you will get hurt. But, do not let anyone tell you that just because you are not his wife, or because he has cheated, that neither of you have the right to complain or be upset. At the end of the day, you are both people and people fall in love, even at the wrong times in their life. Marriages are dynamic, not static - and just because they loved each other 15 years ago and could live a life together 15 years ago, doesn't mean that they MUST do the same now when they have no interest in sharing a life together beyond playing a role in their children's lives.
2006-10-17 13:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. it is not fair on his wife. If he can cheat on his wife, he can do the same to you. Later It will bring problems to you. You both will fight and end up in a messy life. I am sure you thought he is a better looking and fun to be with. He maybe passing his spare time with you. End of the day he go home to his wife and children. How do you feel about it?
Find a single man and have a good future. Don't waste you time with a man who cheat on his wife
2006-10-15 12:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by shiningstar2808 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget him. Do you really need to be the other woman? Think about the wife, if you were to have an affair - the poor woman. You're a woman put yourself in her shoes, what if you were her. There are a million single men out there. Its not love that you have for him.
2006-10-15 13:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by jovy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad mistake,and that is all it is,a mistake.Nothing can ever come of this,sorry but you should know by now that "marrieds" are out of bounds-move on with your life and forget this guy,he is married.
2006-10-15 21:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do this. He is married, and you need to respect that - even if he doesn't, he's got a wife, and maybe kids. How could you wreck another woman"s life? Go after single or divorced dudes, if that is your thing.
2006-10-15 10:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is the man you are married to then that is great and how wonderful for you! if he is married to someone else...get the hell out of dodge and don't look back. someone elses man is off limits no matter what sob story he wants to give you. have a little respect for yourself and just drop any romantic notions you might have.
2006-10-15 10:29:51 · answer #11 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋