His punishment included making him go in to the nursery/toddler room 1 sunday and apologizing to the staff. He came back and told us he needed to either do chores for them for an entire morning and if he refused or gave them a hard time then he should maybe spend the rest of the time there as 1 of the kids so he could see what it was really like to be a baby and maybe he would think differently about what he did. Is this reasonable punishment?
Is it fine for him to have to wear diapers during the day? Should I change him then?
2006-10-15 10:21:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am not understanding this…what kind of ‘church’ (being the operative word here) do you belong to that would add ridicule on top of embarrassment? He was probably humiliated enough just having to go apologize for his act, I do not believe any more should have been made of it. Unless, of course, he’s in a habit of taking what’s not his? Then perhaps the chore-doing punishment was within reason. But definitely NOT wearing the diapers! And did anyone bother to ask themselves (or your son) as to why take diapers? ;)
2006-10-15 10:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by 49erfan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not force him to wear diapers, many parents have tried this in the past but the question you have to ask yourself is; Is it worth all the money I might have to spend on therapy. Yep that's right children who undergo humiliation punishment usually end up needing therapy. Your son may have just been curious about the diapers and was to afraid to talk to you about it, or maybe he just didn't want you to know about his curiosity because he thought you might react badly to it. Your so may be becoming or is an infantist or diaper lover. Neither of these things is bad no matter what anyone unless says. A diaper lover is someone who has either a sexual fetish about diapers or someone who loves the way diapers make them feel. And an infantilist is someone who wants to act and be treated as a baby, there are many different types of infantilists too. I personally suggest that you sit your son down and have a talk with him, assure him that no matter what he says or does that you will always love him and then ask him why he stole the diapers ask him if he would like it if you bought him some, be understanding no matter what he says because if it is one of the things I mentioned there is no beatting it or punishing it out of him, he will always feel that way for the rest of his life, but what you do affects the way he will look at these desires and if you make him think that they are bad then he will always think that there is something wrong with him and he may end up slipping into a deep depression later in life and need lots of therapy or he might just kill himself.
2006-10-16 12:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Joey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very reasonable. He could have been given a lot worse for what he did. He is lucky it was a church nursery instead of somewhere else that may have reported him to the police or something like that where his punishment could be more severe.
Maybe if he has to go to the nursery and be treated as one of the kids he will know what the consequences of his actions would be.
I would hope he would learn a valuable lesson from the experience and maybe teach him some responsibility.
I would also ask him why he wanted the diapers. Does he want them for someone that is needy and couldn't afford to buy them? In that case then he just needs to be taught how the church deals with people that have that and other types of need.
If he wants them for himself to wear then you need to figure out why. Does he have a problem and need to wear them or does he have a desire to be in diapers again? He may have too much stress in his life and wants to go back to a time when he didn't have to worry about anything, back to when he was in diapers and every need was taked care of for him and he didn't have to make decisions.
Talk with him and find out what is going on in his life, it sounds to me like you may be out of touch with him a little bit too much.
Good luck and may God bless all of you.
2006-10-15 14:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
him having to wear a diaper is taking it too far, you might seriously damage his self esteem kids sometimes make mistakes I'm not saying what he did was right but this is not the appropiate punishment for a 12 year old boy. Why would you change your 13 year old son, I think that it is disgusting that you would even ask that question and maybe you need some counceling.
2006-10-15 10:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that for them to make your son wear diapers to teach him a lesson is extremely degrading- what happened to the church being forgiving and asking him why he did this instead of humiliation? And if this is a true story you would really make your son do that and even have to ask if this a good punishment?
2006-10-15 10:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses to do the chores, you need to tell him that is too tough and make him do it anyway. Why do you have to even ask about anything beyond that point? He is only 13 and has stolen (it doesnt matter what). If he is old enough to steal then he is old enough to take the punishment.
2006-10-15 10:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why The Hell Would He Steal Diapers......Am I The Only One This Strikes As Odd.....
2006-10-15 10:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of it extremely is extremely clever. He could have been given lots worse for what he did. he's fortunate it became a church nursery extremely of someplace else that could have pronounced him to the police or some thing like that the place his punishment must be extra extreme. according to probability if he has to bypass to the nursery and be dealt with as between the youngsters he will comprehend what the implications of his strikes could be. i could desire he could learn a helpful lesson from the adventure and doubtless practice him some duty. i could additionally ask him why he needed the diapers. Does he prefer them for somebody that's needy and could not arise with the funds for to purchase them? if so then he in basic terms desires to income how the church deals with people who have that and different varieties of style. If he needs them for himself to positioned on then you definately ought to make your concepts up why. Does he have a topic and ought to positioned on them or does he have a prefer to be in diapers lower back? He could have too lots rigidity in his existence and desires to return to a time whilst he did not ought to subject approximately something, back to whilst he became in diapers and each prefer became taked care of for him and he did not ought to make judgements. communicate with him and discover out what is going on in his existence, it sounds to me such as you may properly be out of touch with him somewhat too lots. stable success and could God bless all of you.
2016-10-16 05:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would a 13 year old be stealing diapers.
2006-10-15 10:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this punishment is totally inappropriate. he is being a man what are you doing to him??? that might be just curiosity
2006-10-15 10:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by lateine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋