And I said mature! so if you arent dont waste your time and move onto the next question.
My boyfriends 30th birthdayis coming up in January and I really want to get him something special, I know he really likes this car a Shelby Ford something, (I dont know the first thing about cars) And I really want to get it for him, but he doesnt want me to.I am not trying to buy him I just want him to know how important he is to me and how much I love him, I know i dont have to buy him an expensive car to do that but I want to get him something he would really like and he would look so cute in it!
The question is,is it too much, would it be OTT or embarrassig for me to buy him such a gift when we have only been seeing each other a while?
How would you guys feel about it.
Thanks boys have agreat day!
2006-10-15 10:21:10 · 16 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your crazy!!! He's not worth it. ; )
Dont buy him a white Shelby Mustang GT500, convertable, with chrome rims, and racing stripes.....
That would be outrageous!!!!!
Wait to see if he picks you up from the airport at the end of December, or if he flies to come see you in a few weeks. Then, maybe then, you will feel better about getting him whatever he wants. Oh yeah, i wouldnt do anything untill he puts a ring on your finger too. This guy sounds to good to be true. So do you by the way.
I wouldnt wory about buying him, i think he is already been sold.......
HI baby....;)
2006-10-16 03:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you 2 are in the yacht and country club crowd, buying your boyfriend a car (even if you can afford it) is wayyy OTT, as you put it so succinctly.
That is a huge investment, commitment, and I would feel all kinds of pressure in the relationship if my gal bought me a brand new car. You kind find some excellent ways to treat him very special with a gift on his birthday without going to that extreme.
Here are some things that will go through his mind:
1) This is now the standard for gifts in this relationship.
2) So does this mean she gets extra rights to complain if the car isn't spiffy?
3) I guess she'll be expecting a ring on her birthday.
4) Oh, geez, she's going all Vanilla Sky on me. I can never screw this up.
and most obviously....
5) Why would she buy me a car as a gift?
It's just too much...I mean, it's even too much for a married couple. It would probably make me more mad than anything.
But most importantly.....HE TOLD YOU already not to do it. He wouldn't just say that, it's not like "let me pick up the Applebee's dinner....oh, no you couldn't....no I insist....oh, alright". If he's already said no, and you do it anyway, it's like you're trying to own him.
Now, I commend you for wanting to do so much, in a way. It sure says what he means to you. But he's going to feel like your boytoy tooling around in that car. And in a way, you have to know that too. So find a grand gesture that's more personal, and less from the pocketbook.
2006-10-15 10:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not accept such a gift no matter how much my partner earns. The other answers seem to agree as well so I won't comment more.
How about something else...
A nice weekend getaway to a location he likes and you do all the planning for it.
Or, if you are in a big city, check around for a place that rents exotic cars. While you may not find a vintage shelby, maybe you'll find something else. Rent it for him for the weekend. See how he likes it. Then if you end up marrying him, buy the real car together as a married couple.
2006-10-16 01:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that would be WAY OTT. Instead of purchasing the car itself, try a little lower end. Try a model of the car, or maybe a poster of the car. I would feel embarrassed to receive such an expensive gift myself! I would try to set my sights, for his present, a little more reserved. A memory of your first date, a romantic dinner date, party, or something like that. Buying someone a new car would send the message of expectations. That may scare him away, even if you could afford it. Think it over before you decide, and have a great birthday with him.
2006-10-15 10:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by Gary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying the car should wait. Its a generous gift. I'm sure he appreciates it but I wouldn't do it just yet. Wait until the relationship matures for a while. Guys like simple things more than big glamorous presents (sometimes). Also, if you buy him the car he will feel obligated to buy you something better on your bd and he will feel like you have to know everywhere he goes because "you bought the car". This is his dream, let HIM make it happen, of course you can help, you can go with him when HE picks the car out and when HE buys it. Tell him how nice it is and how much you like it but do not buy it for him. I think you have a motive for buying this car that you don't even realize (too much). What is going on here? Dont take offense to my question. Just think about it, what if you bought this car and next week he wants to split up. Would this be something you could hold over his head when he is gone? "Hey, I bought you a car" or "Hey, I want the car back". Maybe, maybe not, but I'm sure that is going through his head just like it went through mine. Maybe we are nothing alike, your bf and I, maybe we are, who knows but most guys think about the same things. Trust me on this one, don't buy it. And one more thing...Do you have a sister? :)
2006-10-15 10:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying him such an auto (Shelby Ford Mustang. . .maybe $ 50,000.00+) at this early point in the relationship would not be a good idea. . .perhaps a really high quality model ( 1/24 scale) would be more apropos at this early stage of your relationship. Best of luck. . .
2006-10-15 10:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by dirlligaf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a rule of thumb, I would not by a tremendously expensive gift if you are not married. If the relationship goes south, you won't be the one holding the bill.
Instead, I'd give him a homemade gift. This is a much better way to express your love.
Best of Luck!
2006-10-15 10:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Oklahoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats an awful nice EXPENSIVE gift for a short time,, what if he decides to take the car and bail,, No I say give it more time to mature and to make sure you REALLY know him like you think you do, But Yea,, I wish I was your BF, then I would say hell yea,
2006-10-15 10:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,,, gee i wish I were your boyfriend,,, first off....
But,, hmm,,,, it would seem rather strange for you to buy this car for him... It is very expensive and they are only making a few of them.. period... so if you are going to , your going to have to do it quickly before they are sold out... No Kidding.. each Ford dealer has just so many they can sell,,,,not that many....
Personally, I would think , hey this girl really likes me,,, but why not just go for a European trip,,, you both will enjoy.... ?
good luck
2006-10-15 10:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sweet of you.
Yes, go ahead and buy him the car. You know like girls are interested in certain things, guys are also and one of their interests is cars.
Good choice. Write a message on it as well like, "To the best man in my life, from the luckiest woman in the world".
Good luck and I hope he will love it
2006-10-15 10:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋