My brother in law hates me. But no love lost really. He doesn't like the fact that my husband has started going to church and doesn't do the same things he used to before he met me. He is always sneaking around and trying to convince him to go back to his old ways. It makes me really mad-------to the point, I can't even stand to see him come around. And we have had words many times Which is really hard, because he just lives two doors up from us. I know things that could get him in trouble with the law or social services, but I am trying to let God handle it. Should I just sit back and keep my mouth shut or go forward with the stuff I know.
2006-10-15 09:38:44 · 7 answers · asked by jlbr711 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
then you will be no better than he is, maybe you should talk to your husband about all of this and tell him that you don't like what his brother is doing and come to some kind of compromise with your husband and brother in-law. maybe you could ask that he only be allowed to come over one or two days a week, and ask your husband to tell his brother right in front of you that this needs to stop, that he loves you and he is going to be with you and that his brother needs to except that. but don't go trying to cause a problem for him with the law or social services, you would only be creating more problems, when you are trying to end them.
2006-10-15 09:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T get him in trouble. If talking with him doesn't work, then talk to your husband and tell him how frustrated you are. Not that he has to talk to his brother about it, but sometimes it helps just getting stuff like that out of your system. Maybe you have to look at it from his point of view. If his brother has always been a certain way and suddenly changes, and he can't relate to the new lifestyle, it must be very difficult for him. Maybe he feels like he has lost a brother? I don't know how different your lifestyles are, but I think he is kind of "scared". If he has always been able to hang out with his brother and do certain stuff and now he can't, he may not know how to interact with you and your husband. If it's a huge problem, then you have to move. Even though that's not an easy decision, that would certainly help. Then he can't come around every day. If that's not a possibility, your husband should be the one talking to him about it and not you. Good luck.
2006-10-15 09:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider that we agree to get a long with our in laws when we get married. We don't have to like them, and we don't have to condone their behaviors. But we do have to accept them the way they are. If we don't, we place our spouses in the difficult positon of having to choose between two people they love. Fighting with him only reduces you to his level and makes your way of life less attractive to your husband.
My husband comes from a crazy family and my in laws are always troubled. I have many times said things I wish I hadn't but I have never regretted keeping my mouth shut. When there is trouble with the in laws, it doesn't come from me. That really helps my husband decide which way is a more positive life for him.
Stay out of it and concentrate on what you can do to help your husband stay comfortable in his new lifestyle.
2006-10-15 09:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your husband is his own person, it is NOT up to you to decide what is best for him. Let your husband handle the situation. If he is not strong enough to stand up to his brother & tell him that these are the choices he has made, then that is his problem......
2006-10-15 09:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 08:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, sounds like your husband doesn't let his brother control him and what he thinks your husband needs to do doesn't mean jack ****.
2006-10-15 09:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be discrete & keep quiet...
2006-10-15 09:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋