YES I'M SCREAMING IM DESPERATE. I JUST GOT THE COURAGE TO LEAVE A MISERABLE MARRIAGE (IF YOU CAN EVEN CALL IT THAT) I MOVED TO ANOTHER STATE AND I HAD PLANS TO GET A JOB AND TAKE CLASSES. I FOUND OUT IM PREG I REALLY REALLY REALLY I MEAN REALLY CANT HANDLE THIS. I ALREADY HAVE KIDS AND IM STRUGGLING TO RAISE THEM I JUST CAN NOT HANDLE THIS. I DONT WANT ANYONE TO KNOW. I MOVED IN WITH PARENTS I REALLY DONT WANT THEM TO KNOW. THEY WOULD GIVE ME HELL AND I CANT TELL ANYONE I KNOW ITS SO EMBARASSING. ALL I WANT IS TO BECOME SELF SUFFICIENT AND INDEPENDENT GET MY OWN PLACE AND SOME KIND OF DEGREE AND GET A GOOD JOB AND OH YEAH LOSE WEIGHT THIS WILL SET ME BACK A THOUSAND YEARS I REALLY CANT DEAL WITH IT. THIS IS ALREADY IS A VERY STRESSFUL TIME NOW ADD THIS TO IT AND I SHOULD DIE OF A HEART ATTACK OR SOMETHING. I DONT WANT A MEDICAL ABORTION I WANT A NATURAL MISCARRIAGE I READ ABOUT THAT DONT KNOW HOW GOOD THEY WORK. I WANT TO MOVE FAR AWAY BUT HAVE NO MONEY WHAT DO I DO??
2006-10-15 09:35:22 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if i do adoption, then everyone will know and i can not deal with their reactions WHICH WONT BE GOOD. i would do adoption if i could move far away.
2006-10-15 09:44:33 · update #1
should've, could've, would've doesn't matter now you can't go back so i dont need rudeness here.
2006-10-15 10:00:39 · update #2
Please put your baby up for adoption. There are so many women out there trying desperatly to concieve and cannot. If you cannot raise your child, there are many others out there that would be thrilled to have the chance to parent. God bless you in your decision.
2006-10-15 09:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm not trying to be harsh, but if you were sooooo miserable in your sham....I mean marriage, then you should have been more careful! The way I see it is you have a couple of feasible options:
1. Don't make the innocent fetus pay the price! Have the baby and let the father have custody of it.
2. Give the child up for adoption.
3. Give yourself the chance to find out if you can still achieve your dreams AND still have the baby.
You can also have the baby and leave it at the hospital, police station, or fire department. You won't get into trouble for it! There are a number of states that let parents do that, no questions asked! At least the baby will be cared for and not killed!
2006-10-15 09:53:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you already know you should've been careful if you were going to have sex with this guy. Do not try to have natural miscarriage on purpose. Miscarriages are damaging to your body. People that have them too many times end up not being able to have children at all at later times. Adoption is the best option. There's no easy way out of this so you have to be an adult about it. There are more than enough people to choose from for your baby to live with. And it's not impossible to work and go to college while pregnant. I've known so many people that did it. I'm guessing since you moved in with your parents they are willing to help you with your other kids. Let them know what's going on and I'm sure they will tell you not to punish the child for your irresponsibility.
2006-10-15 10:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered having the baby and giving it up for adoption? There are many many couples who would be more than happy to pay your living expenses while you are carrying this child in exchange for the blessing of adopting the child. You said that you do not want a medical abortion, I believe it is because you would feel guilty about that. How do you think you would feel if you had a "natural miscarriage"
2006-10-15 09:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by bettyswestbrook 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abortion and adoption are both hard choices. I agree with the comment about taking care of your situation and starting your life anew. It will hurt your heart if you have a medical abortion or whether you induce a natural miscarriage. I think that you should get your life together. Do all the things you planned to do. Dont give your abusive ex another reason to call you back. Dont give your parents another reason to be disappointed in you. Pray about it, cry about it, but most of all, think about it.
2006-10-15 09:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by vanity planning 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not going to reccomend an abortion and, honestly, I don't think you want one or you wouldn't be asking what to do. You'd already be thinking specifically about that.
If you REALLY feel you can't have the baby and you feel the need to keep a pregnancy and adoption secret, contact an adpotion attorney. Expenses related to the pregnancy can be paid by the adoptive parents and you're likely to find a family in another state who would be willing to pay relocation costs for you to stay there during the pregnancy.
I can tell you love the baby and want what's best for him/her just because you're asking on here and you'd be helping to creat a family by placing the baby for adoption. Search your heart, look into options to help you out if you think you might want to keep the little one and feel free to email me if you need a friend. :)
-Jess
2006-10-15 09:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jess M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a shocker! I cannot imagine what you must be feeling right now. Anything you choose will be hard, of course. If you do not feel you can handle raising the child, you can give it to a family who longs to be blessed with a child. Please remember that it is life, a child, you are carrying within you. Life is sacred. Whether you choose to raise your child yourself or let someone else do it, consider what is best for you and best for the child. Good luck in your decision. Pray for strength and the courage to make the right decision for you and your baby. You may want to go to a pregnancy crisis center for help (they won't tell anyone you're pregnant). You CAN do this. It will be hard, but the fact that you had the courage to do what you needed with your life is proof that you are strong. Just lean on God, and He will guide you (even if you haven't been religious up until now, it would be a good time to start).
2006-10-15 09:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well as much as you dont want to admit it, that baby that you are carrying didnt ask to be brought in this world. Im glad that you got out of a terrible relationship but its not the baby's fault. Dont abort it! If you feel that you cant do it then give it up for adoption. I know you are in a bind now but you have 9 months to figure out what you are going to do. Whether you want your parents to know or not they will eventually get over it and they will help you out as well. You could always use a parent so dont push them away. A medical abortion and a natural miscarriage equals one thing...MURDER!!! whether you have your doc. do it or you do it yourself you are killing your baby! You need to stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about your children and the baby that you are going to have. Thats a part of growing up!
2006-10-15 09:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm kind of going through the same thing. I think I might be pregnant and I can't have a baby right now b/c I just started college and my parents and family would be very disappointed in me. I too want to avoid an abortion. I don't know for sure If I'm pregnant yet, but I am looking for ways to get rid of any possibilities of it. I think I'm going to exercise hard or drink a few beers. But the thing is I don't know for sure if I am. You on the other hand do know. If you haven't told anyone yet and don't feel guilty, you could probably do the same as I am going to do. Its tough.
2006-10-15 09:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by ronron2021 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not sure if you knew far in advance that your marriage was not working out, if so then you could have made sure you did not get pregnant again it is your responsibility as well as your husband's to make sure you do not have anymore children if that is what you are wanting. Now that you are pregnant again you need to deal with the situation and forget what people will say or think of you.
2006-10-15 09:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is best for the child. Adoption may be what is best for the child and you are going to have to deal with that. People are so self centered. Do what is best for the child! Things will work out.
2006-10-15 10:05:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋