why do we give?

Question

when were in love, you start giving your all...and when that person you love is much in need, you put out your hand, and you give and you give...from emotional to material things..you give all you can..your there for that person, you cancel alotta **** for that person so that you he/she doesnt feel all left out..


and when it is that YOU are in need.

they give you half of their love or none at all..
all they say is "its not my fault, you have nothing"
or "its not my fault your in this ****"

jus stuff like that.


but then..we think about it. and its like, wow..when you were in need, i never thought of it like that...i never once said "its not my fault you have no money or what not" i just helped and never complained.

then you started regretting the times when you had helped soo much and gave soo much.

Answer 1

I'll do just about anything for my friends, because I know they'll do just about anything for me...we don't keep score...however I'm not going to give all I have, or there will be nothing left for me...one must not give up who they are in an attempt to save someone else or "make" them happy...individuals make themselves happy, no on else...if a friend needs my help I'll give it...but sometimes that may be advice, and not to bail them out of a mess they got themselves into through foolishness or poor decision making...

If you feel you are being taken advantage of when you give...then don't give so much...but don't do it thinking that person is then obligated to give just as much to you if you are in need...do it without expectation of getting it back, or not at all...

Answer 2

Humans give because it is what is needed for survival of the "group." If each of us gave instead of taking, then we would use this "energy" or "resource" that we have wisely, and thus we are better off for survival. Love is the emotion that bonds us, and giving is the result of that action. It's true that two strangers who feel nothing also gives, but that is called respect (which is early stage of love). Now you know that respect is needed for two people to fall in love. Respect is both nature and nurture. Don't fight the urge to give (if you have one), and if you don't, that's still okay. Remember, it's okay to be egocentric -- before you get married.

Answer 3

i give cause there's always blessings and joy in giving but on the other hand i'm not saying there's no blessings and joy in receiving cause there are too. i give from my heart and don't expect any returns that's why it never let me down nor hurt me. although people on the other hand will also extend themselves out and give and when i receive it i don't measure what they have given to me (weighing in return if they have given me as much as i have given) cause when an individual gives they have different measures. so i just count my blessings to when i receive, should it be a big nor the smallest one in life.

Answer 4

Dam your sad, I see that you feel from the heart and also give from the heart.

Any man would be lucky to have someone that special, but just remember, men think from logic, and women think from emotion.

If you want an answer to how to relate to men better, then draw a hard line, then step on it, he will be crushed and you will feel much better.

Answer 5

we are people with hearts full of love. God made us that way. The nature of love is in the giving of ourself to others. either in a personal relationship or in friends or family. when we dont have love we cant operate in the way love is which is connection to others and caring for them.

Answer 6

what's the name of them pills you are taking, i want some

Answer 7

This is sooooooo true!!!!!!!!!!