2006-10-15 09:11:37 · 31 answers · asked by stellablue0274 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just wanted to add I do not have children and this attraction has been on my mind for months, i will get a divorce before I act on anything because that would be the right thing. anyhow my husband does nothing but take, i earn 3x more money than he does, i do all the house work and take care of all the bills, plus run my own business. all he does is complain about not getting enough nookie. i have said things about it before me not being happy and feeling taken advantage of, never changes a thing. I have asked to goto counseling and he says no so what the??????
2006-10-15 10:09:42 · update #1
Stay away from the friend. You have a covenant with your husband that should not be broken. Take your vows seriously.
2006-10-15 09:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Just Cuz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problems have NOTHING to do with another man...they are within your marriage. Cut the other guy out of the equation..what do you want to do ? IF it means being alone, do you want to cut this husband from the list? IF yes, then do it now. The other guy has nothing to do with your decision, or certainly shouldn't..he is probably no better than what you have..he certainly does not honor marriage vows, and probably won't if you were with him. Act for yourself, your life, not a dream world that will probably never start, let alone last. Good luck, but sound anything but happy as a married woman.
2006-10-15 17:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with your husband, do some fun things with him, laugh together and fall in love with each other all over again.
If your husband was attracted to a friend of yours and your friend was attracted to him too, how would you feel? That might give you an even better answer to your question.
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Edit - Your attraction to another man is a different issue from a basically bad marriage. If he won't go to counseling with you, it's probably time to move on. No communication = no marriage. Life is too short to be with someone like that. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-15 16:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kathryn™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay as far away from him as possible. Make sure the two of you aren't ever alone. It is common to have a crush..but you are married and in your vows you promised to love, honor and be faithful to each other. If you had an affair with him imagine the troubles it would cause. Imagine the family that would be hurt.
Get your self busy with other things. If you feel turned on....seduce your husband. Spice things up at home and keep your vows.
2006-10-15 16:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married?
Because you love your husband? You saw in him a person who could be your life long companion, through sickness and health, richer or poorer, etc.
The day you got married there was no other man on your mind then. What has changed?
It is called lust. Lust leads to sin. Sin has consequences.
Are you willing to throw away what you dreamed in the beginning of your marriage? You made a commitment. You made a vow to God and your husband. Be the person you were on your wedding day, be faithful till death do you part, from your love.
2006-10-15 16:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by TenJac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the urge. I'm in a situation right now where my husband has been calling other women, emailing other women and texting other women (hasn't physically cheated but emotional cheating is painful enough). Don't put your spouse through that kind of pain and heartache. Believe me, it is pain like I've never felt before and never wish to feel again. Uphold your marriage vows and don't give in to sexual temptation outside of your marriage. You may have one night of amazing sexual gratification but a lifetime of pain and lonliness because I'm sure if your husband finds out he will want to divorce you. If you have a faithful husband, cherish him. They are hard to come by these days.
2006-10-15 16:48:04 · answer #6 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember what made you fall in love with your husband. Everytime you think about the other guy think instead about the things your husband has done to make you happy and all the experiences you've had together. Plus, if you try to make a move on the other guy or let on that you like him, he may just tell your husband since he's a mutual friend. ~Stay Strong :)
2006-10-15 16:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Affairs don't just happen. There's a lead up period with looks and flirtation which you are doing right now. Let me remind you that you are married and you have the ability to stop it now before it gets out of hand. Let me also remind you that you have a moral obligation as well.
If you are that unhappy in your marriage, finish what you started before moving on. And if you don't plan on getting a divorce then you have no business trying to spark up another relationship.
What about loyality, respect and self dignity instead of selfishness?
Just my thoughts.
2006-10-15 16:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well just because you are married it does not mean you are not going to find other people attractive. I think if he is a friend you should NOT do anything with him. It he was someone who you only knew then I would say something different.
Whatever you do do not tell your husband\wife about it EVER
2006-10-15 16:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by kinito_2000_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u tell yr husband about yr feeling for the other person, see out that turn out or else u could just go ahead and cheat on him. See cheating is what u really want to do so now u r on-line trying to get an OK from somebody.....
2006-10-15 16:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by gate keeper 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋