2006-10-15 08:47:56 · 10 answers · asked by Asilos Magdalena 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Apologize for anything that you are ashamed about now, and then don't do anything that you will be ashamed of later.
2006-10-15 08:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame is another form of fear that your sub conscience has been programmed with from certain circumstances in your life. That is you were told that this is not good and people made you feel uncomfortable when things like that happened and you felt shame for it.
You have to understand that it does not matter whether the action you do that are shame full are good or bad. The only reason you are feeling ashamed, is because you think that it is a shameful act. Somebody might feel ashamed of something that you would never have second thoughts of. So it has all to do with your sub conscience and how it was programmed by parents, teachers, friends, in your early child hood.
There are many ways to overcome this, but one of the most important will be for you to learn about yourself, why you do certain things the way you do them, and start accepting them. You have to become aware of your own self and your surrounding and become very comfortable with you.
Then, if shame is accompanied with other people. you have to look at those people and accept them for their values. ( as long as they don't disrespect you or harm you)
If you really want to learn more, you should get a book on self confidence. there are lots of good books out there. this subject is really big, and there are So many types of shame.
Another good idea is to visit a Psychologist, because they can help you understand yourself and give you assistance in ways to improve your own self. (including in how to release shame)
Hope that helped a bit.
2006-10-15 16:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Seb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are ashamed of things which you have done.......when you change your ways,no longer doing that which is shamefull, what made you change your ways, was it insight on love, which shed light on your wronge doings, was it just that you see that those ways are of no real use to you or anyone else, that they are just immaturities.......we all grow and mature, some quiker than others, there should be no shame in lessons nlearned, just shame in what you can not seem to learn....try this......they shall wallow in there own shame.....what is it to wallow......is it to like be drowned in, maybe we are drowned in them till we tire of them and see what we could not see.......so then we change, we reallize that those shamefull things where just immaturities to overcome, and why should i be ashamed of what i have overcome, the shame that i had is now stregth within me, to never do that again, so why be ashamed of something that gave me a stregth that many do not have, a stregth that can serve to help other, that can serve to understanging how these things happen and how they can be overcome....many need to know, will you share your experience to help others....maybe by you going through it and your teachings of it, will keep many others from going though the same thing,....so by you doing that which was shamefull, and overcoming it, how many are kept from doing that same thing, just because you did,,,,,,does that not make you a great tool for the world, because of what you did that was wronge.......the one who has been there is the greatest teacher, how can you teach that which you have no experience in,,,,,,,,,,,,,,do not let your shame keep you from your glory.......it can be what makes you glorious..........there are great lights in darknes, may shine like non other........look at the full moon , does it not give light during the dark hour.....let your light shine.....
2006-10-15 16:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a perfectionist all my life, as my parents were. We were and are extemely self-critical. This leads to shame that never goes away. So my answer -- though I have imperfectly implemented it in my life -- is to care less what other people think. --And realize that when you fail the sky doesn't fall and, further, that YOUR failure is in all likelihood as good or better than the other guy's personal best.
Shame sucks. I am there all the time. But nobody's perfect.
2006-10-15 15:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by martino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live an honest life, not hurting others or stepping on them to make yourself look better then you have no shame.
Other than that don't allow things that have perhaps been done to you cause you to feel shame.
2006-10-15 16:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by drg5609 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not commit any shameful act.
If you learn to enunciate and communicate clearly and succinctly
you will never need to be ashamed of your speech.
If you always perform your work to the best of your ability then you will never need to be ashamed of any shoddy workmanship on your part.
If you live your life as if you lived in a glass house then you will never need to live with regrets.
2006-10-16 23:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your best.
Don't do wrong. Shame inevitably follows.
As long as you do your best, there's nothing to be shameful about.
2006-10-15 15:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Ettejin of Wern 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Believe that Jesus loves you.
2. Forgive everyone for everything they did to you.
3. Forgive yourself for everything you can think of.
4. Setyourself free and letyour spirit soar.
2006-10-19 20:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a religion? Or...why are you shameful? More info----
2006-10-15 15:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odd question. Best answer would be to do nothing your ashamed of...
2006-10-15 15:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by nekoolzec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋