2006-10-15 08:37:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have too tell someone that your best friend is being abused! Don't let another day pass without going too someone and telling them. Go too her parents or If you are a teenager, go too your parents or someone close that you feel comfortable talking too. She is scared but that is normal for someone that is being abused,. Only SHE know what all he has threatened her with if she tells anyone. I'm saying this from the heart because I've been where she is. I got out safely but it took me 7 years too finally leave. Best friends keep all kinds of secrets, but sometimes there comes a time that If that secret is something that could potentially end your friends life..then It's time too break your promise too keep It a secret. If you love your friend then you will tell someone about this before it destroy's her life. and hey, remember this...she may be angry at you at first but once she is safely out of this dangerous situtation she is in, she will Thank You!!!!
2006-10-17 11:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you have absolute proof beyond a shadow of a doubt that she's telling the truth, you keep your eyes and ears open and you do what you can to keep her out of the cross hairs of the alleged abuser...she has to want to help herself...when you do have proof...call the local police department and make a statement/file a report as well as the local abuse hot-line. Be there for her and be understanding not judgmental.
2006-10-15 08:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call AWAP abused woman advocacy program ..it is listed in every phone book they can give you tips on how to help her without interfering until she ready i was in an abusive relationship and they helped me they will help her get out if that s what she wants they will help her hide to be safe until everything is taken care of and will help her leave with all she needs and not be left with no $ or possessions..I have been there i was scared to death because if he found out I would get beat worse but encourage her there is help email me if there is anything she wants to ask..I will help her become a survivor be there for her but don't be pushy because he will push you out of her life if he feels threatened by you
2006-10-15 08:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live up to your title of "best friend" and get her out of the situation before she really gets hurt. Tell her parents, whatever it takes. She thinks she's in love and can change him. Right? Well, probably not. In most cases the abuse just gets worse. If you care about her, then stop letting him hurt her!
2006-10-15 08:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Karen T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would totally go off. Why would she want to risk her life? I know its hard, and if you have children and no job and no money it can seem to a woman that they are stuck there. But, if she knew that she could go somewhere and feel like she wasnt in the way until she got on her feet, it might help her get away from the bastard.
2006-10-15 08:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kellie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a really hard question to answer.. i can see where it is really hard.. you need to tell her that everything is gonna be ok and that you love her and because you love her your going to tell someone who can help.. first thing i would do is call the cops but dont give them your name and ask them what you need to do and what they could do and then when you call and tell the cops pack your friend up and leave town for a few day and only tell the ones you need to that away she is out of his reach. but your going to have to make her understand that this is what you need to so because chances are she wont want you to do this in fear that he will hurt her more
2006-10-15 08:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by doto7640 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone who can help her. Her parents would be a good place to start. If you don't feel comfortable with them, I strongly suggest you tell a teacher or some adult you do trust. No one deserves to be abused in anyway.
2006-10-15 08:47:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well depending on her age you either tell her parents or you tell her that if she doesnt care about herself enough to get help you are gonna do it for her then you call the cops and report his *** women die everyday from abusive boyfriends and husbands i was with a guy who hit me and after months of abuse i finally decided he needs to be punished and i called the cops he did 2 months in jail and got 2 years probation and 26weeks anger management classes so if you love your friend help her when she cant or wont help herself
2006-10-15 08:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by teresak713 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Amanda!
Didn't you say it is your best Friend??? You call the police right now!!! This is abuse. Dont you want her to live and get out of this situation?
2006-10-15 08:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is being physically abused then make a anonymous tip to the police.
2006-10-15 08:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋