2006-10-15 08:29:30 · 42 answers · asked by lettyhrrr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no... if your marriage is based on sex... then something is wrong
2006-10-15 08:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by seminolefan925 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I like to zig when everyone else is Zagging, I'll say yes, and I think I can defend my answer.
The reason sex is the most important thing in marriage is because, in a perfect and upright world, it is the relationship feature that is exclusive to marriage. I know that's not a popular stance these days...reserving sex for marriage...but it does lead to the most contentment.
Now, does that mean marriage is the foundation, the building block for a good marriage. No, that would be communication, trust, compatibility. However, if you reserve sex for marriage, then you can have everything you have in your marriage relationship in any other relationship , minus the sex.
Now, a marriage may have money problems, in-law problems, child-rearing problems, and those stink, but when the sex is lacking, then there's REALLY a problem.
Having said all that, a good sex life is really a by-product of a healthy relationship, so again it cannot be the bedrock of a marriage, but it can be the most important aspect of marriage.
2006-10-15 08:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No! Each marriage is different because the people are different. This can be seen in the frequency of sex with different couples. A couple should discuss what they expect from the marriage before they get married. There are many things to think about and people do change overtime. I have thought about this and decided that Wisdom, Health, and Love are the main considerations, but Love could trump the other two. The most important thing in marriage is to put your mate first in your life.
2006-10-15 08:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by Pey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...and no.
Let's start with the easy answer...."no". No its not the most important because many people marry for stability - financial & emotional, and because they don't want to be lonely. If both parties are happy in that arrangement -- then they can be married and have sex infrequently, or even never, and still be very happy together in their marriage.
For those who value intimacy that only a committment can offer (marriage or whatever form it takes) sex is a means of communicating. Giving yourself to another person makes you vulnerable and in order to be intimate, you must be willing to open up your heart, your mind and yes, your body to bring pleasure to the both of you.
There have been several studies that show that most couple who are unhappy or depressed often have a lousy sex life. When they get back on track and make time for each other, little issues seem to disappear and the focus is on each other and life together. They wind up being more supportive, loving, and caring.
That said, if you are not sexually compatible with someone you are dating....you have to decide if you are able to create intimacy in other ways. Sex is a language all its own... it's not just intercourse -- sex is the just a very deep expression of intimacy.
2006-10-15 09:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not the most important thing in a marriage, but it does play a major role in a relationship or marriage. Major role and the most important thing are 2 different things. Marriage works with trust, understanding, you knowing your partner in every way, and yes also with sex, but that is not the most important thing
2006-10-15 08:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by Niyela 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not even the second most important thing in a marriage..love is most import and love enough to put your mate before the other..also health and happiness is great and having a companion to be there good or bad and they are they no matter what sex is just a way that we express our love its not LOVE
2006-10-15 08:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually sex in a marriage is a non issue unless someones not getting any. When your sex life is good it's a 90% - 10% split with sex being 10% because both people are satisfied. If your sex life is lacking it's still 90% -10% with sex at 90% and that's usually when fighting and affairs start. If your sex life is bad it carries over to other issues, because someone is feeling rejected or alone. That's never a good thing. Although, a bad sex life is usually a symptom of other problems in a relationship.
2006-10-15 08:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the most important thing, but is definitely an integral part of marriage. Only becomes a problem when one or both partners aren't satisfied.
Think about when things are going fine with sex. It isn't at the forefront of your mind is it?
2006-10-15 08:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but it is extremely important, especially for the man. The myth goes like this: The sex is great until you marry her. That seems to be the case in just about every marriage I have encountered. So ladies, here is a lesson for you today: after he marries you, do your part to keep your sex life alive and you will have a happy dedicated hubby on your hands.
2006-10-15 08:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by dumb guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During sex it is. Well, most of the time it is (during sex).
People can argue all day about what ONE thing is the MOST important in a marriage. Long list too. Trust, sex, care, concern, commitment, faithfulness, children, money, security, etc, etc, etc.
What's most important is: what's most important for the TWO people at that MOMENT.
2006-10-15 08:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would trade a lifetime w/o sex if I could find a man who is honest, trustworthy, and loves me more than anything or anyone. Sex s/b important to a marriage, but my 1st marriage was based on sex, and there was nothing to hold it together because we didn't have any other bond.
2006-10-15 08:35:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋