Very unhappy here!?

Question

We have been together for 11 yrs and he works out of town often,so I'm let here and so is my daughter,we talk a-lot on the phone but he never really has nothing to say.He always replies I don't like talking on the phone for to long is what I hear,its like a onesided conversation,does he not love us or is he just bored with the conversations,cause there is a 6 hour differents with our time periods.But we are leaving to see him in a week so I guess we'll see how it ends there.All I would like to know am I being taken for a ride and wasting my effort too?on someone who will never care?He always says I Love you but does he mean it?

Answer 1

IF your husband is a good husband, father, provider etc you should be happy. I don't like long phone conversations either.

I think you should take up somethings that make you happy and spend time raising your children in a healthy environment.

Take some classes, take up a new hobby, use your time wisely.

Marriage is a lot of hard work and we should always find ways to keep it fresh and fun.

If you can find your own happiness this will reflect in your attitude and your husband will find you more interesting and fun.

You might want to send him love notes and letters when you are apart for long periods of time. Have your daughter draw him pictures and tell him of her activities.

It sounds like you are depending on your husband to fulfill every need in your life.

Buy some sexy lingerie and enjoy your visit with your husband...

IF your husband tells you he loves you, then until he proves otherwise just accept his love and love him back with all of your heart.

You are lonely and miss your husband, find constructive ways to spend your time and make the times you are able to be together memorable and not nag or complaint sessions.

Look for the good in your husband and situation and you will find it....

Answer 2

A lot of guys aren't big talkers on the phone - except for in the first few years that you are togther - so i wouldn;t focus on that. Instead look at the other aspects of your marriage and see how you feel about them. You have invested a long time in to this relationship so before throwing the towel in think big picture and evalaute your relationship as a whole rather than a couple
of aspects f it.
If you are still unhappy write a letter to him and explain how you are feeling and why and what you need him to do - maybe even leave his job anf get something that will be local - then see how he reacts
It does sound like you have already given up as you say you'll see how it ends when you go to see him - you may end up giving him vibes that you don't want to be in this rather than the other way round

Answer 3

Most men don't like to talk on the phone or have much conversation skills on the phone, not like us we can talk for hours on the phone with nothing to say. But why are you living there if you don't like it? Is his corporate office where you live? How old is your daughter get out and see the sights sitting at home waiting to talk on the phone to him wont make things any better. Only you can make you happy, so you and your daughter need to get out and do things and enjoy just being able to do what the 2 of you want.

Answer 4

Some men have a hard enough time communicating,the phone is usually a woman's life line, and a mans enemy.lol If he is supporting his family, then that's alot right there! You're probably just lonely, and feeling emotional, you should not try to figure out if he still loves you or not by phone conversations. When you meet up with him, go by that, you may have the most romantic time ever and feel silly that you ever doubted. 11yrs. is along time!I hope you have fun!

Answer 5

Being alone is always hard on both people. At least he talks to you on the phone. Does he have a computer with him or is one available. You should try and send E-mails to him or try IM's.
When ever you or he feels lonely you can send messages back and forth. You two have been together for eleven years. I do not think he is taking you for a ride. Do you feel that you have been wasting your time for the last eleven years. He probably means he loves you, when He says it.

Answer 6

I'm sure these trips to provide for his family are not that much fun and he probably hates to be away on them just as you hate him being away. My husband is home every night but still calls me from work at his lunch break. I always feel like I'm the only one doing the talking but I think it's just some men aren't into talking on the phone. But it doesn't mean they don't love you.

Answer 7

You need to find something to make you happy soon. When work forced us apart my wife and I decided not to let jealousy get in our way of living. She would go out shopping with her girlfriends. Then it evolved into dinner and dancing on weekends. It added some excitement to both our lives. Instead of seeing it as a unhappy and limiting factor, we decided to use it as a time of growth and exploration. It just takes the right mental attitude. Enjoy life.

Answer 8

Are you being taken for a ride?
He is across the world providing for you...can't you see that?
We men don't like to talk.....get that CLEAR
If he is supporting you and putting a roof over your head, and food in your mouth, that is how a man shows he loves you
Instead of being whiny, thank your lucky stars you have a man who really loves you.
Grow up

Answer 9

I have the same problem, my husband says he loves me but it dont seem like he does...and he also doesnt like talking on the phone he will hang up on me...i say talk to him when you see him next k...cause that baby needs a daddy but if it dont work out she will be fine with just a mommy...

Answer 10

I am so sorry that you have been married for ii year and have not open your eye yet,are you blind, he go out to travel and let you alone , who he taking with him, what is her name? the answer is that he DON`T LOVE YOU,