I work in construction and travel but she won't come with me. She says her job is to important.The kids are all grown up and gone. we are suppose to be in our golden years doing stuff together but it is not happening.
2006-10-15 07:57:43 · 12 answers · asked by that guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is a Superintendent for a construction Co, I join him off and on. I quit my job to do so. If you make enough money for her not to work,I suggest she quit her job and join you. Life is too short, you need to spend time together. I guess I am very lucky to be able to travel with him when I want to. It's fun. Have you guys seen the Movie "Click"?. It's about life passing by and not being there for your family because of work.
2006-10-15 08:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her idea of a good time is not sitting somewhere unfamiliar while you are out working. She has all her comforts of home where she is. Is your job too important to be home where she is? Is there any way for you to do the same job there? In time, if you continue on this path, you two may grow apart, so much so that you move on from each other without even realizing it. If you two are committed to each other and love each other enough to go through this, then just hang in there and stop asking her to come with you.
2006-10-15 08:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there can be a compromise. . .if your wife really does not like to travel. . .is there any way you can find a place close to home so you guys can be together? Being on the road so much can be taxing on the soul and it's hard to feel like you have roots. I am speaking from experience. If she really loves her job and it is really important to her then measure the importance of your job to you. If hers is more important to her then take the steps to find something closer to home. If you've been in the position for awhile then you must have been home alot when the kids were growing up, and I assume she was there with them? This is her time now, let her shine.
2006-10-15 08:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem or issue is just a matter of choice.
What is more important to you . Your job in construction or her.
a job is just a job. without her, your life will become empty.
if i were you I would go to her.if your kids are all grown up. you must be getting on in years . why do you still want that strenuous work. Find another easier job and be with your woman. That is what i would do. Tell her you love her and she is worth more than a job in another state. good luck choose well. a kind woman in your life is everything
2006-10-15 08:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she could get a year off from her job (kind of a "maternity leave" but without the maternity...) and try how she likes it... Knowing that she could always go back to her job which is so important to her she has nothing to loose and both of you could gain from it.
On the other hand have you considered of looking for a new job yourself, somewhere in the area of your homebase?
2006-10-15 08:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by julesloveslife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And if she lives with you out of town, on the road, just what is she suppose to do during the day in a strange town not knowing anyone but you and beer drinking buddies...is she going to sit and watch the ball game every night, order pizza, fart, scratch herself, and spit? Just what is she suppose to do during your working hours...wait for you to be done for the day?
Her job is important to her and gives her purpose, let the lady alone.
2006-10-15 10:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rickard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to tell u how much she is selfish then i remember my self. my husband is seaman & as u know most of the time he is in sea,he asked me to travel w/ him but due to my jub i couldent
hope he understand me, I traveled ones but it was really boring
for me , there was no activity.i felt sorry coz i cant be there w/ him but .........
So i think u if u do love her , dont push on her ,she has right to
live in her way, which i know its difficult for you.
Can u change ur job?if it is important for u to be w/ her?
Think about it.Good luck.
2006-10-15 08:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by behnoush_k_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if she loves her job more than she loves you. I suggest that if you can you and her both sit down together and have a long talk.
2006-10-15 09:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a job, probably friends and/or family there and doesn't want to lose that. If she is happy at home you probably won't change her mind
2006-10-15 08:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see the point in this marriage if you cant even make a decision like this together???
2006-10-15 09:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋