I felt i was not included coz im the only fat girl in the group and the bride is on a tight budget. I can afford my own gown if she thinks she'd spend more on my gown. I treated them as my closefriends since highschool but i feel they treat me differently just coz im fat. they criticize the way i dress, how bad my body looks in our pictures, laugh at me. My ex bf in highschool got married and i was the only one he didnt invite among our group. I only knew about it when we went out and they were talking about their gowns that day, how happy they were. and suddenly i realized im the only the guy didnt invite when the rest of my 6 girl pals were there. Why did they not tell me about it. This is hurting me a lot. What should i do?
2006-10-15 07:49:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
should i revenge? how? should i go to the wedding on december? HELP pls.
2006-10-15 07:50:33 · update #1
If your invited yes, if not no...Why are you even friends with people who you say make fun of you???? What makes you stick around? Also you shouldn't have be invited to ex boyfriends wedding, that's just weird and not right, maybe that's why you weren't. I think its you who feels bad about the way you look, either fix yourself, find new friends and move on....
2006-10-15 07:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say living well is the best revenge. If you slim down and start looking stunning, they may regret having been cold to you.
I've been more or less fat all my life, and I know it hurts when people do this. But face it: there is an ideal weight, and people are sensitive to the look of a person significantly above that weight, especially wearing a matching dress to the ones that are all slim. A really sophisticated friend might recognize that she would show her compassion and loyalty to a friend if she included you, but I never blamed my friends who wanted their wedding pictures to look nice. It is simply true that cameras exaggerate one's size, and there would be no avoiding that you would stand out like the proverbial sore thumb.
Take it as a mark of the limits of the friendship: one of those where she's OK as long as you don't expect too much. Honestly, including you in the wedding party may be expecting too much.
2006-10-15 08:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how much that hurts. My close friend who I've known since we were babies got married this past summer, and she chose a girl she's only known for 2 years over me. I was very hurt, and I thought about skipping the wedding. BUT, I took the high road, dressed up nice, put a (fake) smile on my face and went to the wedding. I think yo should do the same thing. Don't sink to their levels. They're obviously immature if they're leaving you out over something as stupid as weight. And, from what you've said, they don't sound much like friends. So, show them that you have more character and dignity than them and go to the wedding. Forget revenge. You should pity people as foolish as that.
2006-10-15 07:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kelli D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a crappy bunch of friends...I can imagine how much this is hurting you, the best revenge is to find some REAL friends who will love you and care for you just as you are! Some day they'll be fat too and they'll realize what jerks they were...but in the mean time, you need to move on!
2006-10-15 07:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to say that the reason they did not invite you to the wedding was for some other unknown reason........but then you wrote that they did this before! This is just inhumane, rude, and insensitive treatment that no one deserves! If I were you, I would not WANT to be in that darn wedding, no way! They don't deserve your support up there in a wedding procession. They just don't. Screw them. I am so sorry your'e hurting.......but just think......you can control that by deciding to take them out of your lives. I bet if you thought about it, they disinclude you at other times as well but it is just REALLY apparent at weddings. I'm so mad for you!!! NO ONE deserves this treatment...even from thier enemies. PLEASE please please protect your heart and REMOVE THESE ENEMIES FROM YOUR LIFE. Don't even waste one more day on revenge. Just go. My thoughts are with you.
2006-10-15 08:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by D W 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They are not real friends, cut them loose. a real friend could care less how u look or how u dress. Hell my friends say that I dress like a dyke at times, but that doesn't stop them from hangin out with me and they do not tease me. They do try to encourage me to be happy with my looks and dress like a hot chick (yeah I have some insecurities about how my body is). That's what REAL friends do. They accept you for who you are and try to get u to accept yourself too! Phuck em girl! U can get better friends than that!
2006-10-15 07:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun but you need new friends. I wouldn't go. If they were your friends you wouldn't be feeling this way. But I would have to tell them how I feel and why. Why should they get off so easy.
2006-10-15 07:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Someday they will be fat, and you will finally shed the pounds. Remember this on that day!
2006-10-15 07:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by martin h 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, if you are not invited
2006-10-15 07:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋