I was married for 14 years and asked my husband to leave 6 months ago - I was very unhappy in the marriage and I felt great for a while when he first left. He seems to be taking it all in his stride now and I'm feeling pretty low
2006-10-15 07:46:47 · 23 answers · asked by wildflower23000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm in a similar situation -I ended my marriage 5 months ago. What you're feeling is normal, I too felt a lot of happiness and joy at first as the marriage had been very unhappy, but now that's worn off I feel down and sort of in limbo. It's all part of grieving and take it day by day. It's not wise to rush into the next relationship, take your time to find yourself again, as you tend to lose your sense of self in a bad relationship. Find what makes you feel happym even sinple things like a chat with a friend or running a hot bath. In time you WILL feel happy again, but accept your feelings for now and don't judge them. You've done the right thing and should be proud, as it's very hard to end a marriage. Well done!
2006-10-15 08:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a big decision in ending a 14 year marriage and now you might just be feeling low as a big part of you has just...gone. Your so used to him being there and now he's not. Why don't you try going out, trying something crazy and fun and even dating, okay mister right might not come along straight away, but it'll be fun and take your mind off the empty space left by your husband and before you know it your husband will be gone from your mind.
2006-10-15 07:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by deadgirll5224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that you thought your husband was making you unhappy. Now it seems maybe it's something deeper within yourself.
If you have children you may also be feeling guilt about breaking up the family.
Life is probably harder now that he's gone. You probably didn't realize all of the little things you depended on him for.
If you still can, try to talk to your husband to see what could be done to save your relationship. Talking with a therapist could help you discover the source of your unhappiness.
No one is perfect or easy to live with. If you focus on all of the positive things about your partner rather than the negative your attitude toward the relationship will improve.
2006-10-15 08:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Miss All That 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very lucky that your husband left when you asked him to,iv been asking mine for 3 years and he wont go,make the most of it and when you feel down just think about all the unhappy times when you were married
2006-10-15 07:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you were going threw some kind of situation with yourself..as now you have gotten what you wanted and now you aren't happy...maybe it wasn't what you wanted at all..you didn't say why you got a divorce...that would had helped answer your questions..cause it really depends on what was going on during that time and why you got a divorce..but since you have gotten one and you are still unhappy, it sounds like you need to find out just what it is that you are unhappy about..blessings
2006-10-15 07:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by connie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you don't know what u want
you thought kicking your husband out would d make u happy obviously not but u need to find out what will
but leave your husband alone until u really decide what your marriage is worth saving
2006-10-15 22:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by veronica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you realized it wasn't your husband you were unhappy with. If he is gone and you are still unhappy then it is yourself whom you are unhappy with.
Without knowing more about your relationship and your role in it I can't really say anything else.
2006-10-15 07:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this happened to me. After the initial euphoria I felt very down for some time. Stick with it as it sounds as if you made the right decision.
2006-10-15 08:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by tracy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be (((hugs))) to you Hun,i guess you have a little bit of guilt because asked him to leave,but if you did for valid reasons then you shouldn't feel this way,i myself left my partner and it wasn't easy,i assume you have children if so,I'm sure they prefer 2 happy parents rather than arguments,not all men are that strong in still single after 3years,i think once we start dating again maybe smiles will come back to us x
2006-10-15 08:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is a choice. If you were depending on him to bring you happiness and he failed, your always going to keep looking for someone or something that will make you happy but the truth is, you have to chose it...
Get out and start meeting new people but don't rely on someone else for your happiness anymore.
2006-10-15 07:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Gussyellis41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋